Sex ... What's the Issue?

Well lets start today by talking about one of my favorite topics SEX! 

Why is this my favorite topic? Well much like politics and religion when you talk about sex or even mention the word peoples faces get all turned up like they don't do it. Therefore putting sex in my top 3 favorite things to discuss! 

It's everywhere, in our magazines, our kids TV shows that have adult punch lines and of course in the music we blast in our speakers. 

So what's the issue with sex? Why do people get so uneasy about it? Why do they deny doing it or the people they did it with? 

Well my little grasshoppers that is easy! The answer is because most people are ashamed! and with that being said I'm hear to tell you my little humping nibblets that sex is nothing to be ashamed of! OWN IT! 

Releasing stress, showing love and it even helps you get in shape and build your stamina. Stop looking around grossed out that the chick next to you puts her mouth on someones unmentionables and stop thinking that guy has the herp just because he freaked that stripper that dances at Fantasies (even though most of our strippers have the herp doesn't mean all of them do) 

When you're in such a place like my lovely city Anchorage Alaska people share more partners than chapsticks especially if the guy looks hella good. But hey I'm going to fill you in on a little secret WRAP IT UP! All of you out there are getting burned by the SAME dude or getting preggo by his best friend. Why? Because when you're in this state people get bored because of the lack of activities and start humping to keep warm. Nothing wrong with humping, just get one partner.  

I get it we are young in our 20's and some reading this are younger and hell I have plenty of people reading this who are older. Point is we all go through that phase that "hoe phase" where you either flirt, go on LOTS of dates or hump whatever comes your way and shit who cares that's life! Problem is some of you are not growing out of that phase! Oh wait I'm sorry is this truth to much? Stop being all up tight and thinking your higher than the person next to you. If your going to slut it up don't do it for free, just sayin. 

So the issue for me with Sex in Alaska, is simple check the pic.....oh and for the love of humanity use a condom. My other job is at a maternity store and I'm tired of seeing the same people with a different pregnancy. 

This blog is done in pure humor with a hint of a reality check for some people :) Happy Tuesday......... 

Just Let It Out... and Listen Too.

When we get hurt whether it be with friendships, love, family and so on; some of us and I'm guilty of this tend to put up this barrier to block people out. Some think that this is acceptable and will heal them. A great person in my life told me that closure is the best thing possible. It's not always for you, check this out. Say you are the one who hurt somebody. You two used to be close and for some reason you did something so screwed up it messes with that other person daily.

I was recently put in a situation where someone wanted to talk to me. I didn't have anything to say and didn't want to hear the bs storm that was about to come my way. BUT my friend told me "Just listen, let them get the closure and move on." When I asked why, he said: "Have you ever been hurt to the point to where you want to kill someone? Like your emotional being is thrown off by this one person, and if you could just release everything you'd be able to let it go?" So I sat there and stared at him for 5 minutes thinking about what he said. In my heart and mind I was placed in this situation before and just wanted to rip that other person a new one, but since I was unable too, it took a lot longer to move on.

Sometimes we as people need to vent and release, and guess what? There's nothing wrong with that.

So I reluctantly picked up the phone and allowed this person to speak, hey God said if you have an ear then lend it right? I felt better just listening and so did that other person who came to the conclusion that I wasn't the one he was mad at, what he said brought out so may skeletons that I had nothing to do with.

Sometimes people just need to talk.

Thanks to my friend, I've come to the realization that everyone is a little fucked up in life. Everyone has issues, everyone will mess up and everyone at some point in time will hurt someone. When I grasped that, my whole world changed and
I thank my great friend for that wake up call.



Moral of the story?? Well let people talk, even if you don't want to listen, it may end up doing you some good in the long run.

Lord knows it helped me, and now I'm at the happiest point I've ever been in, in my life.

Poetry......

Poetry
Some don’t get it
Others think it has to rhyme
When really it’s just the thoughts creating a time
A time to what you see and a place to where you want to be
The thoughts of emotions that are tied to your heart
Seems so close but yet you have no idea where to start.

Poetry
The rhythmic flowetry of words and symbolism's that roll off your tongue
Sexy like the Spanish pronouncing R’s
Sensual like the smell of a woman’s perfume
And dominating like a mans “manhood” ;).

Poetry
Can ease your heart and open your mind
It can create portals to where you hide
It can release your stress and bring out that inner freak
It’s a great way that I choose to unleash.

Poetry
Is just one of the many forms of writing that pumps through my veins
Blood filled with words that rush to my heart
A heart filled with lines waiting for a masterpiece to be created
A heart that I am proud to call mine and make my canvas.

Poetry…. It flows in me

Of course by the one and only ME :) 

Matters of the Heart (Guess What? No One Else Matters)

Luke 12:34 : For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. 

I was having a conversation with my best friend and we were discussing certain matters of the heart, feelings and acting on certain emotions. The heart is a tricky thing, when listening to it you have to be very careful, much like the verse in Matthew  15:19 states: For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies it can also help in the way of following the scripture of Like 12:34. Depending on what you are listening too the heart can lead you astray from the correct matters at hand. 





So question of the day! "What do you do when your heart is pulling you in a direction that you never pictured coming?" 

Personally I acted on this emotion, something new came my way when my mind was on something else. When this person came into my life I read more into it because we've known each other for so long I just assumed that something was meant to come out of this. So naturally what do I do? I follow those instincts, and boy did it lead me in a world of trouble. BUT I believe it was necessary;  because I learned so much about me as a person, a woman and what one should receive and give. It was painful, hurtful and overbearing at times but thank God it was over.  

Second question of the day!" What do you do when your heart is beating hard for someone but you just got out a relationship?" 


Ahh I read this question over and over again. I'm not going to lie I didn't even want to touch on this but you want it so here ya go. Life is short and is meant to be shared with others.

Lesson- those that are only meant for a season 

Blessing- those that are meant to be around for a long while


NOW you have to learn which people are a lesson or a blessing.PERFECT EXAMPLE! Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. People dog her because of her sex tape and because shes pregnant and still technically legally married. Now I like the Kardashians (like not love them) and truth is people don't know the situation but yet everyone has an opinion  Do you think that's stopping her? With everything she reads, hears sees on TV about her and what she faces every day the girl is still happy in her heart and with the one she wants to be with. In live you have to take shit, but as long as you don't listen to the haters you'll be fine. \

I'm still figuring out which people go to which category, but as I continue to life my life I realize that God does his work, and he will point them out in due time. So the best thing I would say is follow what makes you happy. Sure if you are fresh out of a relationship some people might pass judgement BUT truth is, who cares, they won't be taking care of you, only you and possibly that other person if things end up right. 

I had some more great questions, but I will answer them directly since they added names lol. I'm not a psychic or the one to go to about love. All I can speak on is my experience and release what God tells me to share when I ask him these questions. So with that being said, hope it helps! :) 

The Power of YOU

Shape Up! 

When I turn on the TV, listen to the radio, or even walk in the stores; I can't help but feel sorry for the generation after me. The cartoons are horrible, the music is all about sex and exes and the conversations between parents and children are now replaces with cell phone texting and walking like zombies. For me I had Boomerang, the ORIGINAL All That, Clarissa Explains it All, Bewitched, KABLAM and so forth. Music? Forget about it! Talking about the cuts from the 80's to early 90's? That's when the art of it died! At least our boy bands music made sense, they could dance and ALL of them looked good. When I asked my friends little sister if shes seen the Jetsons and she replied with a "What's a Jetson?" Music is filled with Taylor Swift giving little girls the thought that it's OK to date repeatedly and go around the block, Justin Bieber is falsely claiming to be like Buzz Lightyear and "Fly you across the globe" WHEN Buzz actually clearly states he flies across the galaxy, just sayin.......

Whenever my mom would go to Costco or Sams Club I would harass her to take me with her for the sole fact of getting the tester samples :)! That was the whole point on kids wanting to go! So they can grab the coupons that stick out and get free food; well at least that is my reason :)

Some parents now a days are really busy and some allow TV and music to raise their children. They go around reciting Taylor Swift lyrics going crazy over One Direction when they don't even know the presidents. Schools now are questioning saying the Pledge of Alligence and banning sugar. When I was in school, we stood up every morning to recite that, sugar was allowed because our asses had GYM CLASS! But NOO everyone now is so damn sensitive! Some parents are actually petitioning to get gym out of the schools because their kid is being teased in gym. Well if your child is overweight you most likely are catering to it. GYM is the only thing that could save them. Instead of blaming the teachers, the system and other people for your actions and behaviors why not look in the mirror?

Anyone older than a child has an influence on them. Whether you know the child personally or not. Kids mimic at all ages from babies to teenagers. The only way to turn things around is to make a change with you. If you complain that you're child is bad, talks crazy and dresses like whatever, with the biggest attitude; see where this is coming from. Most of you have no idea who your kids' are friends with let alone what their parents are like. For those of you who are being a great parent(and I know Plenty!) thank you for being nosy when it comes to your seed, thank you for going through that phone, talking with their friends and even their friends' parents. Thank you for actually caring. :)