Just Let It Out... and Listen Too.

When we get hurt whether it be with friendships, love, family and so on; some of us and I'm guilty of this tend to put up this barrier to block people out. Some think that this is acceptable and will heal them. A great person in my life told me that closure is the best thing possible. It's not always for you, check this out. Say you are the one who hurt somebody. You two used to be close and for some reason you did something so screwed up it messes with that other person daily.

I was recently put in a situation where someone wanted to talk to me. I didn't have anything to say and didn't want to hear the bs storm that was about to come my way. BUT my friend told me "Just listen, let them get the closure and move on." When I asked why, he said: "Have you ever been hurt to the point to where you want to kill someone? Like your emotional being is thrown off by this one person, and if you could just release everything you'd be able to let it go?" So I sat there and stared at him for 5 minutes thinking about what he said. In my heart and mind I was placed in this situation before and just wanted to rip that other person a new one, but since I was unable too, it took a lot longer to move on.

Sometimes we as people need to vent and release, and guess what? There's nothing wrong with that.

So I reluctantly picked up the phone and allowed this person to speak, hey God said if you have an ear then lend it right? I felt better just listening and so did that other person who came to the conclusion that I wasn't the one he was mad at, what he said brought out so may skeletons that I had nothing to do with.

Sometimes people just need to talk.

Thanks to my friend, I've come to the realization that everyone is a little fucked up in life. Everyone has issues, everyone will mess up and everyone at some point in time will hurt someone. When I grasped that, my whole world changed and
I thank my great friend for that wake up call.



Moral of the story?? Well let people talk, even if you don't want to listen, it may end up doing you some good in the long run.

Lord knows it helped me, and now I'm at the happiest point I've ever been in, in my life.

Holiday Season! Where's the Cheer?

THANKSGIVING is right around the corner!! Yet stores are already putting up Christmas stuff and dismissing Thanksgiving all in one. People are getting their knee pads ready for black Friday sales, and already know when they are going to wake up and where they are going to hit. Instead of focusing on getting meals prepared and thanking God for what they are thankful for.

Soon after the feast is over, we take a quick power nap and then think about Christmas! A majority of people think about the presents, and how much money they have to spend. While others like me cherish this time and the people who they kept close. Kids are excited for Santa, mom is preparing the snacks she will leave out, dad is working twice as hard to make sure the kids get a great Christmas yet again. All for the superficial, give me this and that nature. Forgetting that Christmas is about Christ and not us, forgetting that Christmas is the  time to spend with family and not just to enjoy the material things.


Then the year is over.  We all sit and think back on the good times this past year had brought us, and slowly laugh at the pain that traveled our way. Before we know it, we are finding someone to kiss at midnight. Then our year starts all over again in 2013. In the beginning we have hope and make goals aka resolutions that we all tend to forget and dismiss around February.

Why? To start the whole tradition all over again. 

Where did the true meaning of the holiday season go? The family time spent, listening to music, talking, watching parades on television and breathing in the brisk air while genuinely feeling happy?  As years went by it's been replaced by buying off our loved ones instead of telling them you love them. Now we want instead of enjoy the basic necessities. We've been commercialized.


This year (even though it was never far from me) I plan on restoring those values. This holiday season is a blessing and has brought so much since last season. I have nothing but gratefulness in my heart, prayers that will continue to be said, and  a big smile to be worn.

You Sly Little Kitten You!

FASHION! Rules the world pretty much. Doesn't matter what your style is, everyone wears clothes and has some type of favorite brand.




Mine just so happens to be Fashion Designer Natasha Sample with NES Fashions check her out! Shes been in Seattle's Fashion week and even got an invitation for Canada's and Austraila's shes on the up and up! And my Alaskans she is from ALASKA! and shes my sister so she's 10x more awesome! :)

www.nesfashions.com

The Best Kind of Love

We all have someone in our lives whether it be a family member, close friend, or significant other that we absolutely love to death! What happens when your love is shunned away all because your mom or friend or girlfriend has an issue? Alcohol? Drugs? or what about an addiction? What if every time that person you love changes into a monster when on something? What will you do?

For those who love hard and won't give up, they will stick around and wait it out. For those who are afraid and aren't sure just might head for the hills. Which one are you? It's ok to say fuck it and bounce, and it's also ok to stay and wait it out, try to be supportive. For me I tried a little of both. I ran for the hills once but came back because I knew I could help. Now I'm in a position to run forever or help out what could be a forever. I choose to help because it's in my heart, and God is in my ear to be patient and kind. So I'm doing a little of both now, heading for the hills but still helping from a distance to see what happens. 

I'm not the type to give up on something I know could work and will if it's meant to be. I could listen to those who are single and will be more than willing to have me that way and in pain all because they are miserable. Or I can listen to those who are happily married, hear the trials and tribulations and understand what needs to be done and not to make a situation better. I choose to listen to those who are happy and know what they are speaking on unlike the other group. 

In the mean time, helping out doesn't mean you are going to get hurt, it means you are big enough to fight for what you want; and for me I always get what my heart desires. Keep in mind, you can't help someone who doesn't want it, so if you try and they aren't willing to better themselves, then let it go.. Time can only tell the truth.. 

Life Long Commitments!

I'm all smiles today!!! no sarcastic rants and raves with a hint of humor. I seriously woke up very happy! As I log into my Facebook, I see another one of my friends crying in a picture with a beautiful ring on her finger. That brings my total of friends getting engaged in the past month to 5! and the number of my lovelies have babies to 3!!

Life brings along so many what if's, drama, and troubles; it's beautiful to see people (especially when I know them) make that commitment! Jump the broom, tie the ol knot a roo!!! Speaking of weddings I have one to go to this Saturday!!!

All I can say is, Congrats to my friends for their new adventures and may God be with you all in every single step of the way!!!

Kinda a twist for today huh? I know I know, don't worry I'll be back into my sarcastic ways tomorrow :)