Sex ... What's the Issue?

Well lets start today by talking about one of my favorite topics SEX! 

Why is this my favorite topic? Well much like politics and religion when you talk about sex or even mention the word peoples faces get all turned up like they don't do it. Therefore putting sex in my top 3 favorite things to discuss! 

It's everywhere, in our magazines, our kids TV shows that have adult punch lines and of course in the music we blast in our speakers. 

So what's the issue with sex? Why do people get so uneasy about it? Why do they deny doing it or the people they did it with? 

Well my little grasshoppers that is easy! The answer is because most people are ashamed! and with that being said I'm hear to tell you my little humping nibblets that sex is nothing to be ashamed of! OWN IT! 

Releasing stress, showing love and it even helps you get in shape and build your stamina. Stop looking around grossed out that the chick next to you puts her mouth on someones unmentionables and stop thinking that guy has the herp just because he freaked that stripper that dances at Fantasies (even though most of our strippers have the herp doesn't mean all of them do) 

When you're in such a place like my lovely city Anchorage Alaska people share more partners than chapsticks especially if the guy looks hella good. But hey I'm going to fill you in on a little secret WRAP IT UP! All of you out there are getting burned by the SAME dude or getting preggo by his best friend. Why? Because when you're in this state people get bored because of the lack of activities and start humping to keep warm. Nothing wrong with humping, just get one partner.  

I get it we are young in our 20's and some reading this are younger and hell I have plenty of people reading this who are older. Point is we all go through that phase that "hoe phase" where you either flirt, go on LOTS of dates or hump whatever comes your way and shit who cares that's life! Problem is some of you are not growing out of that phase! Oh wait I'm sorry is this truth to much? Stop being all up tight and thinking your higher than the person next to you. If your going to slut it up don't do it for free, just sayin. 

So the issue for me with Sex in Alaska, is simple check the pic.....oh and for the love of humanity use a condom. My other job is at a maternity store and I'm tired of seeing the same people with a different pregnancy. 

This blog is done in pure humor with a hint of a reality check for some people :) Happy Tuesday......... 

The Power of YOU

Shape Up! 

When I turn on the TV, listen to the radio, or even walk in the stores; I can't help but feel sorry for the generation after me. The cartoons are horrible, the music is all about sex and exes and the conversations between parents and children are now replaces with cell phone texting and walking like zombies. For me I had Boomerang, the ORIGINAL All That, Clarissa Explains it All, Bewitched, KABLAM and so forth. Music? Forget about it! Talking about the cuts from the 80's to early 90's? That's when the art of it died! At least our boy bands music made sense, they could dance and ALL of them looked good. When I asked my friends little sister if shes seen the Jetsons and she replied with a "What's a Jetson?" Music is filled with Taylor Swift giving little girls the thought that it's OK to date repeatedly and go around the block, Justin Bieber is falsely claiming to be like Buzz Lightyear and "Fly you across the globe" WHEN Buzz actually clearly states he flies across the galaxy, just sayin.......

Whenever my mom would go to Costco or Sams Club I would harass her to take me with her for the sole fact of getting the tester samples :)! That was the whole point on kids wanting to go! So they can grab the coupons that stick out and get free food; well at least that is my reason :)

Some parents now a days are really busy and some allow TV and music to raise their children. They go around reciting Taylor Swift lyrics going crazy over One Direction when they don't even know the presidents. Schools now are questioning saying the Pledge of Alligence and banning sugar. When I was in school, we stood up every morning to recite that, sugar was allowed because our asses had GYM CLASS! But NOO everyone now is so damn sensitive! Some parents are actually petitioning to get gym out of the schools because their kid is being teased in gym. Well if your child is overweight you most likely are catering to it. GYM is the only thing that could save them. Instead of blaming the teachers, the system and other people for your actions and behaviors why not look in the mirror?

Anyone older than a child has an influence on them. Whether you know the child personally or not. Kids mimic at all ages from babies to teenagers. The only way to turn things around is to make a change with you. If you complain that you're child is bad, talks crazy and dresses like whatever, with the biggest attitude; see where this is coming from. Most of you have no idea who your kids' are friends with let alone what their parents are like. For those of you who are being a great parent(and I know Plenty!) thank you for being nosy when it comes to your seed, thank you for going through that phone, talking with their friends and even their friends' parents. Thank you for actually caring. :)

Relapses

Relapses can be the most dangerous thing for us as people. Whether it be with drinking, using drugs or relationships. Most of us have seen someone we love go through some kind of relapse  I know I've seen plenty of this while growing up, and it's one of the most scary lonely feelings in the world.

So what do you do when you see someone going through this? What do you do if you're going through this? This is a tough question and leaves me to answer this based on experience and asking those closets to me. When my loved one was facing a relapse and started to drink again, it tore me apart the others around us. Staging an intervention was the best thing we could have ever done. But yes, we all had thoughts and doubts in our mind. We all were worried that maybe she will take it wrong and leave us all or lash out and become even more violent. Nonetheless  we had the intervention, touching, heartfelt, so many tears filled the room; now she is healthy happy and loves us more each day.


I also had a close friend dear to my heart that was hooked on a certain type of drug. His family didn't know how to deal so they kicked him out the house.His friends were either selling the drug or using themselves so he was constantly around this. There seemed to be no hope or light because all the people he ran too catered to his addiction or pushed him away. He pushed me away because I tried to help, but then I realized no matter how much you try, no matter how much you love someone you can't help those who don't want to be helped. So I prayed and prayed. Months went by with no communication and that ate me up. Then I get a call for his funeral 4 months after he lashed out on me for helping.....

Relationship relapses are just as effective, they can have either result. Say you're with someone whose abusive (mentally or physically) you "leave" but come back, or you take them back (I use them because this can be either a man or woman). Over time that hurt, that pain, those words that were said, those actions that were done and those broken promises and false hopes will ware on someone. But there is always something holding you in why? it's the possibility  it's the "Well we used to be" its the "we once were" excuses, and my favorite that I've used the "potential if time is given" excuse. By staying with someone who is in those stages it can be deadly. Shows like Snapped and TV channels like ID don't exist just because. Love is the most deadly thing a human and have. It can blind you and make you do crazy things. This is the most common and self hurting addiction out there. It slowly can kill you from the inside out and make you lose your mind. I had a friend, who turned someone down and got out of her relationship. She continued to mess with his head on the daily, calling texting, I love you and so forth. When he pleaded his pure little heart out to her one more time she shut the door on him and went with someone else (again); I recall this going on for a good 6 months. SO much emotion overwhelmed him, he stalked outside the house we were at one nigh and waited for her. He then followed her and ran her over. She's now in a wheel chair legs shattered and all; he on the other hand killed himself while still in the car.


Relapses it hurts, can kill and leave you without the ones you love. Seeing people go through them is tough  but going though it your self is even harder.

Cherish What You Have Before It's Gone

She sits and waits as her prince comes in and takes
He yells and kicks, screams like there's no one around
She sits and takes it, holding back emotions and her frown
Her heart beats for him, but it's slowly starting to stop

One day he comes home
She's tired, worked a lot
He sees no dinner and starts a commotion
"you lazy woman, where's my food?"
He yells at the top of his lungs
hand in the air and face all crunched up.

"I'm sorry" she replied "I lost track of time"
Little did he know she was working both jobs
and just wanted to be home.
Her back was weak, her wrists didn't bend with ease
her makeup was non existent an her body grew fragile and skin pale


He lives in disbelief
his world is his
having an affair with a much younger mistress
forgetting about home and traveling else where
his new found love had so much life and love to spear!


He does not noticed because he's stuck in his own zone
He does not see that his queen, his wife, his lady is slowly perishing
He does not notice that she lost 20lbs
He does not see the pain in her face when taking each step day by day

Instead he sees a dirty house
Laundry not done
Dinner uncooked
Dishes left in the sink
and a wife that's sleeping

Shes been beat down
by the man she loves
Yet while fragile and weak her spine is strong enough to carry it all

The next day the man comes home
Sees the same thing as before
He slams down his suitcase and walks up the stairs
he noticed his wife's fragile body and thinning hair
Instead of checking on her he begins to yell
Throws a chair and papers in the air
Pulls off the covers and hits her with a pillow

Storming out the room and down the stairs
5 minutes pass the time
No wife rushing to his aide?
Dinner still not made?
He stomps up the stairs and yells "WOMAN GET THE HELL UP!"
No response no movement at all

He walks to her side and sits on the bed
places his hand on her head
Feels the coldness of her body
the weakness of her breath
He took time to calm down and notice he was in a room full of death

He began to cry in disbelief
he noticed she was holding a letter tight and close to her chest
Taking it away and opening it up slowly he began to read

"My dearest love of all, 

you don't notice me and failed at many things 

I never doubted you or made you feel less of a man. 

I held you high when others told me to let you fall. 

I placed you so close and dear to my heart.

 The day we said I DO I took my vows serious. 

Now I know I was more serious than you. 

After finding lipstick on shirts, and cuff links missing, 

after following you one day to the Marriott and your rescheduled meetings.

 I knew what you were doing, but I thought you would be man enough

 to tell me. Instead you infected me, hurt me and killed me. 

If you bothered to speak to me, you would know I've been 

diagnosed with AIDS. Thanks to you and your mistress 

you two can now live in peace. No more headaches for you 

and no more pain for me

-Love the ever so faithful "

That Irritable Time Bomb

There comes a time in ALL of our lives when we become a ticking time bomb. We start out nice, understanding and patient. But then you always come across that ONE person who can ruin and take advantage of your niceness. Am I right? So what happens to those
people who smile and try to be positive? from a collection of asking friends, strangers, family and personal experience I came up with the most common answers in the following situations.



Relationships!
Many of us want one, some want to stay away and little girls grow up wanting that prince charming. This can go either way, the man or woman in the relationship will be nice, forgiving overlook plenty of things that may bother them and make them think twice about their relationship. Soon the partner knows what they can get away with and.... (guess what happens!) THEY KEEP DOING IT! Soon they are able to do certain things and the other person will be scolded for doing the same actions. This is more common than normal. Bad thing about this is that one person soon starts to veer off and question on if this relationship will work despite the "love" they might feel & typically end the relationship.


Work!

There's always that ONE co-worker who takes ideas and secretly sales it as their own. The new person to the group is innocent and naive to the situations at hand because they are simply trying to fit in. What happens in this situation? Well soon that nice guy/gal turns into the Hulk becomes a dick or bitch (whatever term you would prefer to use) and starts to really shake things up in the office. Bad thing about this is that the new person will be fired because the boss will usually see the back end of things and not the whole picture; classic case of peer pressure.




Family!
This one is tricky and the most common. You have that parent, cousin, sibling, aunt or uncle who are all smiles and usually wants something. Whether it be listening to a drunken conversational topic you've heard a million times, to borrowing only $5 for the 30th time, to even keeping dirty secrets that backfire on the ear lender. Not much you can do about this category unless you decide to cut off your family members. Bad thing about being stuck as the nice guy in your family is that you will always be considered that and be taken advantage of; sooner or later you will lash out and ruin those family bonds.



Being a irritable time bomb is no fun I've been that before and when I exploded it wasn't pretty. To manage that I cut off plenty of people found my me time. Now I'll be honest I've lost that me time and I'm slowly going back to that ticking bomb, this time I know what to do to avoid that and avoid hurting peoples feelings (see I can have a heart at times :D)

Holiday Season! Where's the Cheer?

THANKSGIVING is right around the corner!! Yet stores are already putting up Christmas stuff and dismissing Thanksgiving all in one. People are getting their knee pads ready for black Friday sales, and already know when they are going to wake up and where they are going to hit. Instead of focusing on getting meals prepared and thanking God for what they are thankful for.

Soon after the feast is over, we take a quick power nap and then think about Christmas! A majority of people think about the presents, and how much money they have to spend. While others like me cherish this time and the people who they kept close. Kids are excited for Santa, mom is preparing the snacks she will leave out, dad is working twice as hard to make sure the kids get a great Christmas yet again. All for the superficial, give me this and that nature. Forgetting that Christmas is about Christ and not us, forgetting that Christmas is the  time to spend with family and not just to enjoy the material things.


Then the year is over.  We all sit and think back on the good times this past year had brought us, and slowly laugh at the pain that traveled our way. Before we know it, we are finding someone to kiss at midnight. Then our year starts all over again in 2013. In the beginning we have hope and make goals aka resolutions that we all tend to forget and dismiss around February.

Why? To start the whole tradition all over again. 

Where did the true meaning of the holiday season go? The family time spent, listening to music, talking, watching parades on television and breathing in the brisk air while genuinely feeling happy?  As years went by it's been replaced by buying off our loved ones instead of telling them you love them. Now we want instead of enjoy the basic necessities. We've been commercialized.


This year (even though it was never far from me) I plan on restoring those values. This holiday season is a blessing and has brought so much since last season. I have nothing but gratefulness in my heart, prayers that will continue to be said, and  a big smile to be worn.

Fight Through The "NO"

Yeah, that ugly two letter word we all hate!!! 

Some people want many things in life, and don't work for it. A lot of people in this world don't work as hard as others because they have ties or mommy and daddy or my favorite MONEY! So it makes us normal people who work hard. blood sweat and tears hard; have to work 10x more to even get our foot in the door.

It's unfair and down right rude that's why some people give up! SOME have the mindset that there's no need to go for it because someone will always get there before me, someone will always be ahead of the game!

Let me tell you something, things that are meant to last don't GET HANDED to people. DREAMS that are meant to happen and be successful aren't going to those who call mommy and daddy and rely on their money. GOALS that are meant to be reached wont be satisfied by someone who didn't sweat for it.

There is NO LONG TERM SATISFACTION for the people who are spoiled. They rely on the money and other people to make things happen. They are weak and not self aware let alone independent enough to keep the ball rolling. Hence the celebrity break downs among those who get things handed to them, the career flops and so on. Take away those ties and cash, and you'll be left with a self loathing, cry baby who can barely wipe their own ass.

When you try and go for a goal, don't be mad at all the NO'S you WILL receive. Instead look at those No's as a blessing. That means, what ever company you are trying to be noticed by isn't the right fit. There is a yes down the line, you just have to have the drive, determination  mind set, and STRENGTH to find it. There will be a shit load of No's that will come your way. SIMPLY because you are not ready! Then you will hit a maybe one or two maybe a few more; which will let you know you are almost there. Then when you have grown, and accepted and defeated NO you will walk through an unsuspecting door of yes.


So stop thinking you're entitled to something because you have knowledge about it and been doing it for awhile. STOP thinking the world owes you, please for the love of humanity STOP blaming people, getting snippy and whinny;and last but not least STOP looking at others and expecting to have the same outcome.

Everyone journey is different.

Let Them Play...

Pageants....... Sigh 

Beauty pageants..... they are everywhere and seem to be the main attraction in Texas! Young girls put into pageants to be judged on beauty and what they know. How can they judge little girls on knowledge when most of them can hardly spell? The amount of time parents put into their kids for them to be able to do pageants is amazing! Makes me wonder, is this really for your little princess? Or is this some dream you weren't able to live?

Many parents put their kids through it for themselves and sooner or later when the child grows up it becomes something they want to be because it's all they know. On one episode of Toddlers and Tiaras, there was this one pageant child who told her mom that she didn't want to do it, she was 3 at the time. Her mother replied with "well you have no choice." Is that really what we are teaching our young girls? That LIFE itself is a pageant? and  being the one with the best shell, false smile, fake hair and will win? IN most cases this is true depending on what industry you enter in. WHAT is not showcased in these pageants is that EDUCATION plus beauty can take you to higher places than just being someones eye candy.

Ups & Downs

Ups: 

The ups on putting your child through pageants is giving them a chance to be creative, interact with other young girls, learn competition, earn money (hopefully for school), and to be active. There probably are many more but these are the only pluses I see. 

Downs:

The downs on child's pageants for me go as follows: make up caked on (hiding their true selves), tight clothes, and unwanted attention from predators! Like the most well known case of JonBenet Ramsey, an adorable pageant child who won numerous awards and pageants. She was found dead in her basement, case is still unsolved. God and the killer are the only ones who know what happened to this little girl. At these pageants there aren't guidelines on to who can enter. You never know if you're sitting next to a child predator who's praying on his next victim; this person can be MALE OR FEMALE! Or if that judge at the table is doing unspeakable things with your child while the curtains are down. It's an open field and play ground for anyone to step their foot on. Exploiting your child in bikini;'s, makeup, teaching them to switch their hips and flaunt everything they have around stage is ridiculous. 

These babies don't know any better, they are just kids. Having to be transformed into a woman on stage is normal to them. Sure many would argue about poise and grace and all that good stuff, but the truth of the matter is, you never know who will or might follow you home. You never know who is a predator until your little princess is treated like a grown woman. The grown woman you turn her into when she's on stage. 

I don't understand. Maybe I would be pro-pageant IF they allowed the kids to be judged on how they really are. By that I mean, looks no make up, let them dress themselves, pick their own talents and so forth. Let them be a child on stage, the child they are meant to be at that point in their lives. Maybe if that would happen, I would agree, until then this is where I stand and how I feel. 

Shits for Giggles.. Don't Cross Here Deer!!!

Originally I wasn't going to write a blog BUT I saw this video that made me want to post it and share! The things some people believe and actually think is just amazing! Listen to how this lady truly believes that deer know and comprehend deer crossing signs..

Thank you Amy James for this great laugh

Really? Is That How You Feel???

MAN! Is it just me, or are people REALLY into their emotions lately? Maybe it's because of the season, you know political and fall seasons. This time of year our social networking sites are full of political rants a raves and people swearing they know the God honest truth about EACH candidate. THEN you have the fall, which in some states brings bleak skies and cold temperatures, therefore making people grumpy, rude and well.. just flat out BITCHY!



So Tell me how you really feel is my personal take on Facebook statuses that have to do with back stabbers and sneaky people. This seems to be filling up my news feed!! My thoughts on this is because people's true colors come out at this time of year! It's cold some people are lonely and start talking WAY more than they should and usually air out a few skeletons of theirs and their buddies. Soon all that comes BACK and SHABAM! DRAMA CENTER ALERT! Now you have people breaking up with their boyfriends and BFF's and You slept with Johnny yadda yadda yadda; UGH it's exhausting.

I would love it if Facebook could be a happy non judgmental place where people can actually come to talk and keep in touch. INSTEAD it's about liking "I LOVE BOOBIES" or "FREAKS ONLY" pages, talking about your co-worker and bosses, using ridiculous: "IHTSBSOABHCKMA" #hadenough instead of simply typing out : "I hate that slime bag son of a bitch, he can kiss my ass".. not everyone knows what each letter means

So tell me, WHY is it OK to air out all your business to the entire world, but yet act surprised when people are actually in it?

I'll tell you how I really feel so it doesn't seem like I'm picking on people:
and I apologize for anyone who would read this and think 100x more into each little word than it's supposed to be. I have plenty of people who read these blogs, and some of them actually think it's about them (DESPITE MY EXAMPLES THAT DON'T CONCERN NOR DESCRIBE THEM).. irritating...

So please by all means, tell me how you really feel; since reading it online is never enough.

Too Broken to Fix?

Relationships....

I for one am NO expert nor can I give advie, because to be honest I have no clue what to do. All I can speak on is experience from myself, friends and family situations. With that being said, it brings on the reason for this blog "To Broken to Fix?"


Some people have the tendency to stay in situations or relationships when there is WAY to much damage done to be fixed. There is ALWAYS one person in the relationship who see's no problem with the major issues and doesn't understand why the other person might hold on and put that guard up.  Speaking with many people about this, family, friends even co workers I wanted to get a really good reasoning for why this happens. Here is what it came down to.

Guard up responses: 

"When a situation happens on more than one occasion, people in general tend to have a guard and want to wait and see if things really change or not." -friend

"I had my guard up in one relationship and wouldn't let go because I was stuck on the "Possibility" of it getting better, and it never did."- co-worker

"You want to trust, but for some reason you can't. All that has been done and continues to be done in my eyes won't make up for the hurt and pain it caused prior." -family member 

No Problem responses:

"Well, if it's truly in the past and doesn't happen again why should it be an issue?" family member

"Somethings need to be worked out and when one person honestly believes that it's done and over with they will think it's ok and move on. Most of the time the other person isn't over it." co-worker

"If you avoid the issue sooner or later it should disappear." -friend 

To be honest, I like all these answers. There's truth in all of them and faults in some. Either way, this let me know how some people think. Now maybe you think similar or have a different thought or response.

If you are in this situation and have plenty of questions, one place to avoid is going to FRIENDS! You will always have that one who wants you to be single and miserable like them, and then you'll have one who wants you to stay no matter the circumstances. Take time and if you pray then do that. YOU are the only one who can fix what's not making you happy not your significant other or friends or your family.

Are things really to broken to be fixed? Is there always something to do to "rekindle" or "relight the flame" that was lost? Or is it just a lost cause and people should cut their loses before it really gets ugly? It's hard to say especially when you're in that situation. You may not want to hurt the other person or hell you may even hold on to the "possibility" versus reality.

Whatever you choose best of luck in this life changing decision. Just avoid waiting to long, you don't want to lose yourself by protecting something that isn't working.

People Are Watching...Step it up!

I was out at lunch today, just walking through Carrs looking for a great salad. I hear someone talking this mother and daughter and I see the little girl look my way. The mother was smiling and trying to push her daughter towards me. Her daughter bright smile and wide eyed was nervous a little shaky but then made her way in my direction.

"Excuse me." I turned around and smiled at her, looked up briefly at her mom who was waving and grinning ear to ear at me.
"Hey there, what's going on?" I asked, she looked back at her mom and quickly turned around.
"You're Ebony Williams right? The one from TV?"
I nodded my head and said "yes"
"Well, My name is Amya I'm 11 and I just wanted to say that I love you and you have inspired me to become a weather girl too!"
I looked at her and smiled, didn't know what to say because she was 11 and I did that about 2 years ago; so I was a little shocked and flattered. Her mother than came to me and said:
"She's been following your footsteps, loved you on TV, then to that one radio station and now ...." "KFAT" (the little girl busted out) "Yes KFAT, and she also begged me to buy your book."
I sat there just in amazement at this woman and her darling daughter. Lost in words for once I was taken by surprise and smacked in the face with humility.
"MOM! I have it in the car can I please go get it so she can sign it!?" She was so anxious and full of life, I love to see children that way.
"Of course!" Then her mother looked at me and whispered "do you mind?"
"Of course not, I'll wait."

Sitting there talking with her mother and waiting for the little girl to come back I learned so much about these two and myself. Some people might say "DUH" to this but I realized that I have power and influence on these young girls, kids period, people my age and hell some older. I know that I need to step up to the plate and either tag team with someone or start something that helps shape our young, brilliant minded children; especially our young ladies.

Running into this little girl and her mother was not only great for them but also for me. This let me know that HEY people are watching, some are actually in your corner and want you to do well and achieve all that you aspire to achieve. You just have to stick with your heart and do it.

That is my next step up here in Alaska. I'm  at a level to where I can give back with enough of me, with all that I have learned and are continuing to learn. There's enough knowledge in my noggin to share and help those wide eyed little ones.

Time to step it up.
They are watching....
Are you ready?

Friends Helping Friends!

HAPPY TUESDAY! 

Hope you guys are having a fantastic Tuesday!! This blog is about friends helping friends! And when you have a big network or building one, everyone can use a shout out! Right? Whether you're an upcoming business, musician, dancer, artist of any sort etc. This blog goes out to a specific friend and what she is doing that is absolutely phenomenal.

KARISSA LaREN!

Karissa is an amazing person with an even bigger voice! From ALASKA to BALTIMORE she is making moves that not only help her, but she's also reaching out to help better Baltimore. Will you help? Check her out at    http://www.indiegogo.com/wearethesounds.... watch the video for more information :) You go girl!

** I've already donated, and will donate more come $ day. I'm all for supporting great causes especially when people I know are pushing as well. 

Locked In Your Own Thoughts

Let's face it, we all have it, do it, think it at some point in time. I'm referring to over thinking and allowing ourselves to be trapped in our own thoughts. Our mind is great, but it can also be deadly at the same time. I for one  am an over thinker. I'm a Pisces and a very literal person. Words mean more to me than actions, why? Well for me all a man has is his word, if that's not reliable what's the point on waiting to see their actions? (makes sense to me)



The good thing about this is that it allows me to think, and get things clear before I actually go through with something. The BAD thing about my thought process is that while I"m thinking about something I have the tendency to sometimes miss the joy out of things, because I'm weighing the pros and cons. I use myself a lot in my blogs because I know for a fact I'm not the only one with a certain type of emotion and thought process. People don't like to speak  on themselves because they don't want to face the reality WELL WAKE UP! THIS BLOG IS A SMACK IN THE FACE WITH REALITY!! :-D

Why do we over think? Why can't we just go with the flow without a care in the world? What happened to loving and trusting one another? Granted that when we do someone ends up missing or on the front page of the news paper. PEOPLE are crazy! We now are so guarded we can't trust those who "love" us. society is twisted and has way more mood swings than any other thing known to man.


Locked in our own thoughts. Is this good or bad?

You Sly Little Kitten You!

FASHION! Rules the world pretty much. Doesn't matter what your style is, everyone wears clothes and has some type of favorite brand.




Mine just so happens to be Fashion Designer Natasha Sample with NES Fashions check her out! Shes been in Seattle's Fashion week and even got an invitation for Canada's and Austraila's shes on the up and up! And my Alaskans she is from ALASKA! and shes my sister so she's 10x more awesome! :)

www.nesfashions.com

What Makes You B E A utiful.

Hollywood tells us we need to be a size 0 in order to be beautiful. In magazines, on TV, in movies, it's everywhere. Thin is supposedly in and anything else other than that is down right obscure, fat and gross.

Human Barbie 

 From the 30's to now it went from thick to extremely thin as gorgeous! Why? Women now are going through such extreme measures to become that eye candy beauty that is only thought of and photoshopped. Take Valeria Lukyanova, a Russian model who went to the extremes to look like Barbie.  And NO this is not a maniquen, or a really great drawing. This is what she looks like. Why? She says it's beautiful. Not only must she be starving and the amounts of surgery it takes to look like this is ridiculous! But then again, this is what's broadcast as beautiful. It's slowly brain washing people to think so.

What Makes you Beautiful is not just the outside (for all my superficial people) but it's also what's on the inside. In Hollywood sure it helps to be skinny and starving so that you'll avoid the looks and comments from critics. They make is seem like being thin is in and is the best  life choice. I must say to workout as much as someone would have to, eat a certain way and get plenty of fluids and rest it takes to be thin is exhausting and pretty much a second job.Celebrities now are getting into shape but most of them are forgoing the harsh diets and embracing their curves, bellys, thighs etc. More and more we're seeing our once super thin celebs like Christina Aguilera and Demi Lavato Britney Spears embracing the pounds they naturally put on and shaping themselves in a great way.

Personally I think being full figured is more beautiful than being a stick and seeing ribs. Not only is it not healthy but I know more full figured women who love themselves and are happier than my friends who diet all the time and workout 7 days a week.

Stop being so superficial and sensitive. Say fuck you to what the media portrays as beautiful and say hello to what feels right and makes you smile. Don't be afraid to eat that cookie or have a slice of cake, go a day without counting calories or working out. Take a break you deserve it and honestly it's over due. Now don't confuse my words for being HEALTHY with being OBESE. It's a shame that most of america sees over a size 6 as obese even if that person is in good shape.



What Makes You Beautiful, is exactly that YOU. Take it in and except yourself then go about your days.

Pride

The beautiful thing about living in America is the amounts of people with different views, beliefs, religions, politics and most importantly nationalities. With the amount of racism that still exists in America today it amazes me that some people don't understand that this land was taken from immigrants in the first place. Through out the years plenty of people and villages have claimed the Land of the Free as their home.

Alaska has turned into one of the most diverse places to live. Many Africans, Orientals, Pacific Islanders, and Caribbean Islanders call this place home. When I was growing up here, only one part of town was "ethnic" and the others weren't; now where ever you drive or walk  you will see a little bit of everything. I love going to malls and down town walking around and hearing the many accents, seeing different wardrobes and watching little shops from Russia, Africa, Jamaica, Dominican Republic etc come up; form the food to clothes it's something great to see.There's a little sense of the world and understanding coming to Alaska, and it's making this place even more beautiful than just land. It's unique in many ways thanks to the people that are migrating to it adding a little flare to the 49th state.

Pride isn't just about loving your country, nationality or family. Pride comes in many forms from clothing, understanding, religious views and knowledge. We all know that there are many people who are not so accepting to change and different peoples nationalities. When asked what I was, I would always say Trinidadian because it's true. Then I would get oh so you're like Jamaican? For me that's very disrespectful, Puerto Rican's and Dominican's don't like to be called Mexican; Japanese don't like to be called Chinese and vice versa when they are not. There is a difference even if they speak the same language. I would try not to get mad because I know that a lot of people are ignorant and don't understand the difference. In my heart, through my veins and in my family I'm aware of who I am and what makes me.

Today August 31st marks my country's 50th Anniversary for Independence; Trinidad and Tobago. An accomplishment that is highly celebrated and appreciated among those I know and those I'm getting to know. Happy Independence Day to all my Trinidadians around the world, lets celebrate. 

You Don't Need to Workout You're Skinny!!

It's Everywhere! No not sex, working out! Sexy pictures roaming through Facebook of females in lingerie carrying weights, and sweaty men with a chiseled chest and to die for abs. The First Lady has been trying to make our school systems healthy and getting kids more active. More celebrities are advertising water commercials and sports drinks. Self & Shape Magazine has recent stars like Demi Lavato and Jordin Sparks who were pretty hefty and now in decent shape looking healthy and happy! They both said they have incredible amounts of energy and feel really good about themselves (and guess what! They only workout 3-4times a week).

So for those who think the gym is for people who want to be skinny and starve themselves.. shut up. please and thank you! Now you might be saying Ebony why so harsh? I workout 5 days a week and sometimes 6. I always get the you don't need to work out you're skinny (which I am not and proud about that), then they joke on how they need to go to the gym and start laughing... I'm not out of shape, or obese or anything along that matter. BUT there was a point in time when I was over 190lbs thanks to a previous relationship. Before I gained that weight I was at 145lbs. Why did I work out?? Well I'm  naturally athletic, always have been in sports and after high school I kept it up. Then I got caught up in someone else instead of myself and BOOOM I blew up! After that I realized I lost who I was, felt kind of miserable and needed to get back to the old me. I went straight to the gym and began my workouts, in a matter of months I dropped 20lbs. Now a couple years later I'm at a solid 160lbs and loving it. Still have some meat, my shape is defined, I still have a little jiggle which I love and I can run my mile in under 7 minutes again.

Release 

The gym is a great stress reliever. Hell you don't even have to run all day and lift weights or have to be in the gym for hours at a time to feel good. My girlfriend lost tons of lbs just by doing kick boxing twice a week. Get some of that stress off of you, and kick something, dance it off run or even walk. It's not just about getting "skinny" as some say, it's mainly about living longer and loving yourself. Not all of us are supposed to be skinny and slim. Majority of people are thick and big boned there is nothing wrong with that by any means. I know girls who are bigger than me but in really great shape and can out run me. When you're comfortable with yourself, feel great every morning, don't feel guilty by indulging, and having fun everyday; I say you mastered being happy within yourself. For me apart of that is the gym. It's my escape, my therapy and honestly helps me look pretty damn good. (hey I work hard at it, I'm allowed to love the way I look) 

On the other hand, I know plenty of people who don't workout, are obese and eat whatever whenever they want, and they are still very happy. That's great and I  love them just the same, it just breaks my heart to see them in pain, can't breathe, have sudden health issues, get tired so quick and don't want to do certain activities. Not everyone needs to go to the gym to feel better, but living life is pretty awesome and I would like to live it to the fullest; thanks to the gym I believe I can live it longer.

Skinny People Get Crap For Working-out Too! 

Skinny people have it just as hard in the gym as heavier set people. If you are one of the two body types, you will get looked at by someone who is most likely judging you. I used to work with a young lady, very cute and petite (when I say petite she has to be like 5'4" and weighed maybe 110lbs) Her and I were talking about working out because she is crazy about the gym like I am. She said when going to a gym like Planet Fitness she would always get stared at because she was the only skinny girl in there, and she felt as if she wasn't welcome therefore causing her to cancel her membership.  Makes perfect sense to me, I know other guys and gals who say the same thing. SO! Guess what, whether you are skinny, big, in the middle, purple or yellow doesn't matter, you're always going to be judged by someone in the gym. My advice, if you want to complete whatever goals you have put in those head phones and make the gym your bit**! 

Personal Opinion. 

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Why Do You Write? ( You Aren't Paid to Think)

After coming back from a very calm weekend and much needed me time. I started off my Monday at the store grabbing some breakfast before I headed to work. While I was at the store I ran into a Facebook friend. I didn't know this person personally but I knew of them. She approached me and said: "You're Ebony right?" I nodded and stared waiting for her to finish speaking. "Well my name is ****, I have you as a friend on Facebook. I sent you a request because I think what you go through and how you channel that into your writing is cool. How you have found your calling at such a young age and been in a difficult industry to remain relevant is hard. But why write a blog? I mean I love reading it, but I always wondered." I smile and looked and this woman. She is much older, sounds articulate, and VERY energetic for how early it was. I put my bags down and I told her: " Someone once said to me "You aren't paid to think" I write because it is my only form of expression that I'm able to use. Writing lets me see my own thoughts and answer some deep questions I've asked myself. I write  down what people say at times and study it. I look into those words and meanings. Through that I'm able to see who is really there for me and who really loves me. Its a way people can get a hint of my life and what goes on in my mind. Just a taste of some emotion. Most of the time speaking to people who claim to be your friend and others who say they love you, isn't enough, because in the back of some peoples mind, you're full of shit or you don't make sense. This has happened to me alot, my feelings aren't cared for and how I think is not accepted. BUT once I write it down for them to see, all of a sudden it makes sense. It's a little confusing since I've been saying things and it not be taken to heart, but for some reason when I lift my pen, or turn on a computer it makes perfect sense." She smiled and said, "I completely understand. At 50 years old I still continue to fight with releasing emotions." I told her "Try writing it literally saved my life."

So why do I write? Besides for expression, it's who I am and what I know. It's a gift that wont be taken away; something that I have control over. When I write, I'm able to say what I want, how I want and I could care less If I hurt peoples feelings or if someone thinks a blog is about them. I don't care if someone is offended by my words and wants it to be taken down. Why? Because my writing is me, if I edit myself I am a lie to what I stand for and what has God created. I refuse to be that, take me or leave me. Thick skin is what got me to where I am, I believe that people are so shaded and soft they don't know how to be tough or react to someone with a very strong voice. If that is you, don't read my blogs, don't send me a friend request, don't follow me on twitter or instagram; because I won't be censored. AND the icing on the cake, when people doubt me, say mean things and try to steer me away from my passion. It makes me work 10x harder. :)

That is why I write.

It Only Takes One

So because of James Holmes who shot up the Colorado movie theater... 3 more men have been arrested because either they want to shoot up a theater or have seen the movie and want to shoot something/someone. In Maine Timothy Courtious was caught speeding and told police something unbelievable! Courtious said he was on his way to shoot up a former co-worker. While police searched Courtious' car they found an AK-47, four handguns, ammunition and news clippings from the Colorado shooting. Why? Well after he saw Dark Knight Rises and the Colorado Shooter of course! So out of ALL the people in the world, this guy chooses the Colorado shooter as his idol?  In good old Los Angeles 52 year old Clark Tabor stood up in the theater and said "I should go off like Colorado! Anybody have a gun?" Tabor was quickly arrested... James Holmes seems to be a hero and superstar for the crazy people of America and probably around the world soon enough. 

The sad thing about James Holmes is that he's not crazy; he's just a man who acted out his fantasy. If he was crazy I doubt he would have planned months ahead to make this happen. If he was truly crazy it wouldn’t have been planned he would've just done it. Looking dazed with crazy hair and out of tune in a court room does make you look insane and justifies why you would try to plead with reason of insanity. BUT I hope the jury is smart enough to see right through the act of "insane" and go off him being normal and should be held accountable for his actions. 

It only takes ONE person to act this way to create complete chaos. It's a shame that A LOT of people are easily influenced.... That's the scary part.