Just Let It Out... and Listen Too.

When we get hurt whether it be with friendships, love, family and so on; some of us and I'm guilty of this tend to put up this barrier to block people out. Some think that this is acceptable and will heal them. A great person in my life told me that closure is the best thing possible. It's not always for you, check this out. Say you are the one who hurt somebody. You two used to be close and for some reason you did something so screwed up it messes with that other person daily.

I was recently put in a situation where someone wanted to talk to me. I didn't have anything to say and didn't want to hear the bs storm that was about to come my way. BUT my friend told me "Just listen, let them get the closure and move on." When I asked why, he said: "Have you ever been hurt to the point to where you want to kill someone? Like your emotional being is thrown off by this one person, and if you could just release everything you'd be able to let it go?" So I sat there and stared at him for 5 minutes thinking about what he said. In my heart and mind I was placed in this situation before and just wanted to rip that other person a new one, but since I was unable too, it took a lot longer to move on.

Sometimes we as people need to vent and release, and guess what? There's nothing wrong with that.

So I reluctantly picked up the phone and allowed this person to speak, hey God said if you have an ear then lend it right? I felt better just listening and so did that other person who came to the conclusion that I wasn't the one he was mad at, what he said brought out so may skeletons that I had nothing to do with.

Sometimes people just need to talk.

Thanks to my friend, I've come to the realization that everyone is a little fucked up in life. Everyone has issues, everyone will mess up and everyone at some point in time will hurt someone. When I grasped that, my whole world changed and
I thank my great friend for that wake up call.



Moral of the story?? Well let people talk, even if you don't want to listen, it may end up doing you some good in the long run.

Lord knows it helped me, and now I'm at the happiest point I've ever been in, in my life.

Matters of the Heart (Guess What? No One Else Matters)

Luke 12:34 : For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. 

I was having a conversation with my best friend and we were discussing certain matters of the heart, feelings and acting on certain emotions. The heart is a tricky thing, when listening to it you have to be very careful, much like the verse in Matthew  15:19 states: For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies it can also help in the way of following the scripture of Like 12:34. Depending on what you are listening too the heart can lead you astray from the correct matters at hand. 





So question of the day! "What do you do when your heart is pulling you in a direction that you never pictured coming?" 

Personally I acted on this emotion, something new came my way when my mind was on something else. When this person came into my life I read more into it because we've known each other for so long I just assumed that something was meant to come out of this. So naturally what do I do? I follow those instincts, and boy did it lead me in a world of trouble. BUT I believe it was necessary;  because I learned so much about me as a person, a woman and what one should receive and give. It was painful, hurtful and overbearing at times but thank God it was over.  

Second question of the day!" What do you do when your heart is beating hard for someone but you just got out a relationship?" 


Ahh I read this question over and over again. I'm not going to lie I didn't even want to touch on this but you want it so here ya go. Life is short and is meant to be shared with others.

Lesson- those that are only meant for a season 

Blessing- those that are meant to be around for a long while


NOW you have to learn which people are a lesson or a blessing.PERFECT EXAMPLE! Kim Kardashian and Kanye West. People dog her because of her sex tape and because shes pregnant and still technically legally married. Now I like the Kardashians (like not love them) and truth is people don't know the situation but yet everyone has an opinion  Do you think that's stopping her? With everything she reads, hears sees on TV about her and what she faces every day the girl is still happy in her heart and with the one she wants to be with. In live you have to take shit, but as long as you don't listen to the haters you'll be fine. \

I'm still figuring out which people go to which category, but as I continue to life my life I realize that God does his work, and he will point them out in due time. So the best thing I would say is follow what makes you happy. Sure if you are fresh out of a relationship some people might pass judgement BUT truth is, who cares, they won't be taking care of you, only you and possibly that other person if things end up right. 

I had some more great questions, but I will answer them directly since they added names lol. I'm not a psychic or the one to go to about love. All I can speak on is my experience and release what God tells me to share when I ask him these questions. So with that being said, hope it helps! :)