Holiday Season! Where's the Cheer?

THANKSGIVING is right around the corner!! Yet stores are already putting up Christmas stuff and dismissing Thanksgiving all in one. People are getting their knee pads ready for black Friday sales, and already know when they are going to wake up and where they are going to hit. Instead of focusing on getting meals prepared and thanking God for what they are thankful for.

Soon after the feast is over, we take a quick power nap and then think about Christmas! A majority of people think about the presents, and how much money they have to spend. While others like me cherish this time and the people who they kept close. Kids are excited for Santa, mom is preparing the snacks she will leave out, dad is working twice as hard to make sure the kids get a great Christmas yet again. All for the superficial, give me this and that nature. Forgetting that Christmas is about Christ and not us, forgetting that Christmas is the  time to spend with family and not just to enjoy the material things.


Then the year is over.  We all sit and think back on the good times this past year had brought us, and slowly laugh at the pain that traveled our way. Before we know it, we are finding someone to kiss at midnight. Then our year starts all over again in 2013. In the beginning we have hope and make goals aka resolutions that we all tend to forget and dismiss around February.

Why? To start the whole tradition all over again. 

Where did the true meaning of the holiday season go? The family time spent, listening to music, talking, watching parades on television and breathing in the brisk air while genuinely feeling happy?  As years went by it's been replaced by buying off our loved ones instead of telling them you love them. Now we want instead of enjoy the basic necessities. We've been commercialized.


This year (even though it was never far from me) I plan on restoring those values. This holiday season is a blessing and has brought so much since last season. I have nothing but gratefulness in my heart, prayers that will continue to be said, and  a big smile to be worn.

Shits for Giggles.. Don't Cross Here Deer!!!

Originally I wasn't going to write a blog BUT I saw this video that made me want to post it and share! The things some people believe and actually think is just amazing! Listen to how this lady truly believes that deer know and comprehend deer crossing signs..

Thank you Amy James for this great laugh

People Are Watching...Step it up!

I was out at lunch today, just walking through Carrs looking for a great salad. I hear someone talking this mother and daughter and I see the little girl look my way. The mother was smiling and trying to push her daughter towards me. Her daughter bright smile and wide eyed was nervous a little shaky but then made her way in my direction.

"Excuse me." I turned around and smiled at her, looked up briefly at her mom who was waving and grinning ear to ear at me.
"Hey there, what's going on?" I asked, she looked back at her mom and quickly turned around.
"You're Ebony Williams right? The one from TV?"
I nodded my head and said "yes"
"Well, My name is Amya I'm 11 and I just wanted to say that I love you and you have inspired me to become a weather girl too!"
I looked at her and smiled, didn't know what to say because she was 11 and I did that about 2 years ago; so I was a little shocked and flattered. Her mother than came to me and said:
"She's been following your footsteps, loved you on TV, then to that one radio station and now ...." "KFAT" (the little girl busted out) "Yes KFAT, and she also begged me to buy your book."
I sat there just in amazement at this woman and her darling daughter. Lost in words for once I was taken by surprise and smacked in the face with humility.
"MOM! I have it in the car can I please go get it so she can sign it!?" She was so anxious and full of life, I love to see children that way.
"Of course!" Then her mother looked at me and whispered "do you mind?"
"Of course not, I'll wait."

Sitting there talking with her mother and waiting for the little girl to come back I learned so much about these two and myself. Some people might say "DUH" to this but I realized that I have power and influence on these young girls, kids period, people my age and hell some older. I know that I need to step up to the plate and either tag team with someone or start something that helps shape our young, brilliant minded children; especially our young ladies.

Running into this little girl and her mother was not only great for them but also for me. This let me know that HEY people are watching, some are actually in your corner and want you to do well and achieve all that you aspire to achieve. You just have to stick with your heart and do it.

That is my next step up here in Alaska. I'm  at a level to where I can give back with enough of me, with all that I have learned and are continuing to learn. There's enough knowledge in my noggin to share and help those wide eyed little ones.

Time to step it up.
They are watching....
Are you ready?

Friends Helping Friends!

HAPPY TUESDAY! 

Hope you guys are having a fantastic Tuesday!! This blog is about friends helping friends! And when you have a big network or building one, everyone can use a shout out! Right? Whether you're an upcoming business, musician, dancer, artist of any sort etc. This blog goes out to a specific friend and what she is doing that is absolutely phenomenal.

KARISSA LaREN!

Karissa is an amazing person with an even bigger voice! From ALASKA to BALTIMORE she is making moves that not only help her, but she's also reaching out to help better Baltimore. Will you help? Check her out at    http://www.indiegogo.com/wearethesounds.... watch the video for more information :) You go girl!

** I've already donated, and will donate more come $ day. I'm all for supporting great causes especially when people I know are pushing as well. 

Locked In Your Own Thoughts

Let's face it, we all have it, do it, think it at some point in time. I'm referring to over thinking and allowing ourselves to be trapped in our own thoughts. Our mind is great, but it can also be deadly at the same time. I for one  am an over thinker. I'm a Pisces and a very literal person. Words mean more to me than actions, why? Well for me all a man has is his word, if that's not reliable what's the point on waiting to see their actions? (makes sense to me)



The good thing about this is that it allows me to think, and get things clear before I actually go through with something. The BAD thing about my thought process is that while I"m thinking about something I have the tendency to sometimes miss the joy out of things, because I'm weighing the pros and cons. I use myself a lot in my blogs because I know for a fact I'm not the only one with a certain type of emotion and thought process. People don't like to speak  on themselves because they don't want to face the reality WELL WAKE UP! THIS BLOG IS A SMACK IN THE FACE WITH REALITY!! :-D

Why do we over think? Why can't we just go with the flow without a care in the world? What happened to loving and trusting one another? Granted that when we do someone ends up missing or on the front page of the news paper. PEOPLE are crazy! We now are so guarded we can't trust those who "love" us. society is twisted and has way more mood swings than any other thing known to man.


Locked in our own thoughts. Is this good or bad?

What Makes You B E A utiful.

Hollywood tells us we need to be a size 0 in order to be beautiful. In magazines, on TV, in movies, it's everywhere. Thin is supposedly in and anything else other than that is down right obscure, fat and gross.

Human Barbie 

 From the 30's to now it went from thick to extremely thin as gorgeous! Why? Women now are going through such extreme measures to become that eye candy beauty that is only thought of and photoshopped. Take Valeria Lukyanova, a Russian model who went to the extremes to look like Barbie.  And NO this is not a maniquen, or a really great drawing. This is what she looks like. Why? She says it's beautiful. Not only must she be starving and the amounts of surgery it takes to look like this is ridiculous! But then again, this is what's broadcast as beautiful. It's slowly brain washing people to think so.

What Makes you Beautiful is not just the outside (for all my superficial people) but it's also what's on the inside. In Hollywood sure it helps to be skinny and starving so that you'll avoid the looks and comments from critics. They make is seem like being thin is in and is the best  life choice. I must say to workout as much as someone would have to, eat a certain way and get plenty of fluids and rest it takes to be thin is exhausting and pretty much a second job.Celebrities now are getting into shape but most of them are forgoing the harsh diets and embracing their curves, bellys, thighs etc. More and more we're seeing our once super thin celebs like Christina Aguilera and Demi Lavato Britney Spears embracing the pounds they naturally put on and shaping themselves in a great way.

Personally I think being full figured is more beautiful than being a stick and seeing ribs. Not only is it not healthy but I know more full figured women who love themselves and are happier than my friends who diet all the time and workout 7 days a week.

Stop being so superficial and sensitive. Say fuck you to what the media portrays as beautiful and say hello to what feels right and makes you smile. Don't be afraid to eat that cookie or have a slice of cake, go a day without counting calories or working out. Take a break you deserve it and honestly it's over due. Now don't confuse my words for being HEALTHY with being OBESE. It's a shame that most of america sees over a size 6 as obese even if that person is in good shape.



What Makes You Beautiful, is exactly that YOU. Take it in and except yourself then go about your days.

Pride

The beautiful thing about living in America is the amounts of people with different views, beliefs, religions, politics and most importantly nationalities. With the amount of racism that still exists in America today it amazes me that some people don't understand that this land was taken from immigrants in the first place. Through out the years plenty of people and villages have claimed the Land of the Free as their home.

Alaska has turned into one of the most diverse places to live. Many Africans, Orientals, Pacific Islanders, and Caribbean Islanders call this place home. When I was growing up here, only one part of town was "ethnic" and the others weren't; now where ever you drive or walk  you will see a little bit of everything. I love going to malls and down town walking around and hearing the many accents, seeing different wardrobes and watching little shops from Russia, Africa, Jamaica, Dominican Republic etc come up; form the food to clothes it's something great to see.There's a little sense of the world and understanding coming to Alaska, and it's making this place even more beautiful than just land. It's unique in many ways thanks to the people that are migrating to it adding a little flare to the 49th state.

Pride isn't just about loving your country, nationality or family. Pride comes in many forms from clothing, understanding, religious views and knowledge. We all know that there are many people who are not so accepting to change and different peoples nationalities. When asked what I was, I would always say Trinidadian because it's true. Then I would get oh so you're like Jamaican? For me that's very disrespectful, Puerto Rican's and Dominican's don't like to be called Mexican; Japanese don't like to be called Chinese and vice versa when they are not. There is a difference even if they speak the same language. I would try not to get mad because I know that a lot of people are ignorant and don't understand the difference. In my heart, through my veins and in my family I'm aware of who I am and what makes me.

Today August 31st marks my country's 50th Anniversary for Independence; Trinidad and Tobago. An accomplishment that is highly celebrated and appreciated among those I know and those I'm getting to know. Happy Independence Day to all my Trinidadians around the world, lets celebrate. 

Weekend Getaways

Happy Friday!!!!! 

As we all know, I try to make my Friday posts a little more light on the eyes. Today is a happy day (not just because it's Friday) but because I woke up with a whole new attitude. Lets just say all God's blessings are being shown to me and I'm grateful.

This weekend is a chance for me to relax, enjoy and think on many things. My little weekend getaway will be just that, out of town and surrounded by fun, my love and no communication aka phone is put away. Want to relax a little? DO something for you this weekend. Go to a movie, get a massage, eat with friends or family and turn off your phone. Be disconnected with the world for a couple hours if not the entire weekend. Get back to you and re-up on energy, you deserve it.

The EX That Refuses to Stay That Way...

Girl: I thought we had something?

Boy: Yeah like months ago 

Girl: So are we officially done?

Boy: It's been almost 4 months

Girl: I still have faith in us

It happens to almost all of us who get into a relationship. We are happy seem to be unbreakable and start to make future plans. THEN out of no where and out of our control, there is always an EX Girlfriend/Boyfriend that hasn't given up hope. It starts off by he/she calling or texting  randomly just to say hi, check in, get an update. What happens when your ex finds out about your new beau? That one call or text turns into many more contact attempts, random bumping into each other which leads to the desperate outbursts of wanting them back!!!!!!

My ladies, ugh..... When we see our ex who treated us like a princess but we were being a spoiled brat and let him go. Say he is in shape, hanging with friends, happy and has a pretty new thing on his side.Wanna know what some women do in this case? Usually with the females in this role, they cry, try to bring up how you made them feel so good and what not, try to pry back into your families lives and start conversations with your friends. Trying every route to get back into your life some way or another. Then when you (the male) don't bite on that petty bull crap, what does she do? She turns around and starts saying how independent she is, she never needed you, you were holding her back, and now she happy with someone else. Really? Just two seconds ago you wanted his "Ego"* and now you're pulling a WEBBIE and miss I N D E P E N D E N T*?  Crazy!!!  

Now for our fellas who are wearing this shoe. You see your ex girl, she is happy, smiling that smile you used to put on her face. She is lighting up the room like never before, body is looking good because she didn't let herself go after you let her go and now she has a new man who is strikingly handsome, smart and everything you weren't. What do guys do in this situation? Well they aren't ALL as dramatic as the female route (but some are trust me..) instead they call and text cracking a joke or just saying what's up. Then those calls and texts start to become longer conversations. Guys have a slicker way of getting back into a females life, they have a certain swagg to it. Their patience really kicks in, soon they are in the friend zone and after awhile here they try to dominate as if they are Mufasa. Taking that role of friendship to a whole other level. When the female catches on she soon shuts him out and shows him the door. What happens after this? That female now becomes all kinds of bad names,  all of a sudden that guy now has plenty of women lined up, and it's nothing. Hmmm, now I'm a whore whose no good but yet you were JUST barking up my tree? Nice...

Some people just don't understand that relationships are meant for two! If it didn't work out with you and someone else in the beginning then hell it's not supposed to. Now it's hard to maintain a decent relationship because not only do people post it on Social Networking sites, it's so much easier to manipulate someone else. Draw them away from their current and have them be willing to do certain things. It's now broadcasted! By it I mean SEX! It's everywhere and so easy to get. It's a shame, the one who is worth the fight and scaring off exes will be the one you won't have to worry about. So stop rushing and be patient, he or she will come at the RIGHT time. For all that other drama, if your significant other wants to stray show them the door. 

* "Ego" meaning of the Ego used in Beyonce and Kanye West song. Webbie a  rapper has a hit single called  INDEPENDENT 

Examples used are from previous experience with my exes and watching how some of my friends have reacted with their exes. 

Monday aka that 2:30 Feeling All Day

Here we are once again.....it's another Monday!! We all might hate this day because it's the blame for the ending of our weekend and the beginning of yet another work filled week. Not sure about you but I hit my snooze button about 20 times, and was almost very later to work :-/.... Why is that?? Mondays are the doom days and prayer for hump day to come soon enough to rescue us from this work week and bring on our weekend!!

How do you get over your Monday feeling? Sip tons of coffee? Stare at the clock? Smile and pretend like you love Mondays and are so excited to go to work!? or do you sit in your chair pout? Well fellow readers I have mastered the fine art of sleeping with your eyes open while being alert. Yes at the same time. I may be present and eyes will be wide, smile will be plastered on my face BUT some days I am checked out for a few minutes to catch up on that extra 5 minutes of sleep that I missed ( don't judge there is nothing wrong with that :D) Think of it this way, Mondays are always the longest days and seem to never want to end, BUT when it does end the rest of the week will come fast!!

Today's blog isn't about anything to important, just a WAKE UP READ for you awesome readers! Tomorrow's blog should and probably will have more to it :)

Don't Let Them Ruin Your Party

We all have those days when life is great, your job is running smooth, the fam bam is alright and your significant other is being perfectly amazing. THEN we run into that ONE person whose main purpose for the day is to be mean and an ass because they slept on the wrong side of the bed that morning.

So here you come, skipping into work saying hi, smiling, happy, you have that Friday feeling going on when SHA BAM! You're smacked in the face with that Debbie Downer co worker whose sitting at the table, playing words with friends, drinking coffee, and complaining about the sun being to bright. You try your best to stay positive and keep speaking highly and smiling, but he continues to make your day suck just because he wants to. Now that smiley party you had looks more like this ------------------------->

Being a sad pug is no fun at all! What happened to your party?? Don't let the others take that balloon blowing, helium sucking fun having feeling away!

 Here's what you do:

Tell them to talk to the hand, or you can do what I do, and pretend to listen and care but really I'm in my own world. If you haven't noticed,  it's a known fact that other people don't like to see others happy when they feel like shit. In some peoples mind the world does revolve around them, and when it doesn't they aren't so happy.  Life is to dang short to worry, stress, be sad, mad, angry whatever! Life is to short to be anything but appreciative and happy that you are alive. This is easier to say than to do. I have my times to where someone just pisses me off to the T and I want to do some really mean things! I sit and marinate on what I would like to do and say to this lovely individual, but then I quickly come to realize that their life probably sucks. Why else would someone want to poop on your parade? Happy people with something great going for them at the moment wont waste their time. BUT the ones who aren't in that position at that moment, will be more than happy to pop your balloon. 

So POO on you Party Poopers! I'd rather have a party by myself and be the happiest person ever than have a party and invite one lame that can ruin it. :) Smile 

UGH! Damn You Disney!!!

From the time we were born and watched our little Disney movies, most girls want that princess wedding and have our prince rescue us. Becoming that Snow White, Sleeping Beauty or Bell from Beauty and The Beast is what most girls wanted to grow up as. And forget about it if our parents bought us the matching little costume dresses! After that we were guaranteed certified princesses! But then we grow up, and our choice of princes' are rare and filled with boys who wanna touch boobs and be sticky and gross. Then those boys grow  into the teenage phase were they find out their thing a lang raises and then become promiscuous. Then we have to wait a LONG LONG time for our prince to actually mature into the man we have always dreamed about. What happens when we reach this point? Well all our years of waiting have turned us towards a disbelief lifestyle. AKA all guys are douche bags stage.

Confused a little guys? Well let me explain. After all those years of being filled with false hopes of singing animals, handsome princes, and evil step sisters. We have counted on those movies to be true until we are grown up enough to realize its a bunch of mumbo jumbo.  

Ladies go through the phase of always wanting a mate and we have that mindset that we can be with one forever, but guys don't feel that way when they are young. Young means exactly that young and fun! So we will do what we do, party, chill with our boys and hit on girls. Whats wrong with that? To a girl it's all wrong, princes don't do that. and THAT'S WHERE WE ARE MESSED UP! THANK YOU PRINCESS MOVIES! 

Eventually we find our prince and become that princess but when we reach this stage there comes many battles. Both sexes are grown enough to know and understand what it takes to be with someone, but the real trick is holding on and learning that someone. You go through your honey moon stage were it's all lovey dovey, kisses, cute text messages and long night phone calls. All seems so peachy for the first couple months, then you hit around the 4th or 5th month and that's when shit gets real! You have to now begin to think if this person is worth spending more months, even years and possibly forever with. Some ladies can know this within the first couple months and some guys need more time to find that out and take it day by day. Why? Well that's how they think and to be honest I wouldn't mind being able to think this way. 

Then you hit the awkward kinda jealous over looking stage. Were we begin pay attention to the little things and make note. We notice who your female/male friends are and how much they try to talk to you (note guys: even if you tell us about a female friend we may forget a name, but we never forget a face, body language or conversation; and 9 times out of 10 that will be brought up in a conversation). This little stage can make or break people, some might think the other is being overbearing and jealous; when in reality the other person just wants to know who that female or male is, and what purpose they have in your life. Some go as far as telling the other person : "Umm they need to chill out, or they need to step back" If this is said or felt, ladies and gents don't get iffy, just think about it. Would you want another person coming all up in your business and having the possibility to ruin your relationship? This stage can last a matter of months to even years! Before all of this is sorted out. Not only do you have to figure out who other people are to you, you also weed through your friends and see which are poisonous to you and your relationship, you have to fight off and set others straight(as in whose crushing on you) and then you have to see if your mate fits into your family.  So don't get it wrong, this stage is a long process, and this process allows the two people to see if it's really worth it AKA the GROWTH PHASE.

IF you make it through that stage then you truly begin to learn and understand that person. All that time spent and talking builds allowing that bond to get stronger. That level of understanding is at an high that can only go up. At this point you set the exes straight, you kept your friends opinions out and you keep your relationship between the two of you. What now? Weill you grow and you wait to see where life's headed. You understand now not to assume and know it's open to speak with your partner about whats ahead, your fears, your faults and what bothers you. After all that you may even fall in love. Marriage? Well not necessarily, relationships are a life long process and commitment. Sometimes people grow apart despite being together for years.They may have become the best of friends but have fallen out of love. Is this bad? No at least you knew what it felt like and you are aware of what to do in the next relationship.  But since we are keeping things on the optimistic side, lets just say you fight long and hard, and you get married and it's finally your ever after. :) 

I'm definitely not a love guru or anything, just an observation. I've been around and still am around happy couples, who have been together for years and I mean decades. Some are married and some are not, does one relationship mean they love each other more? NO it  just means that works for them. Not everyone is going to be married or think its a way to go. Love is a beautiful thing, and WHEN you find it appreciate it. This blog was inspired by the ones around me, speaking knowledge and filling my head with truth as well as personal experience from my past and current relationship. 

Beautiful Alaska

See Alaska and I... we have this love hate type of relationship, winter time we seem to do nothing but fight and bicker but when the so sweet summer comes my way, I can't help but fall right back in love.  You see people complain about Alaska and say " isn't there snow 24/7?" "do you have a pet polar bear?"  OR now my recent favorite, "what's Sara Palin really like??"  People make me laugh with the things they really believe goes on here. So to answer these questions " no there is not snow 24/7" and "no I don't own a polar bear he was shot down for protecting our pet penguins" and "I have no idea how Sara Palin really is, never met her."

Many people from Alaska get irritated by the simple questions and I have to keep reminding people that I know and myself at times, don't blame them for what they know; it's not like  education on how Alaska really is, is being taught. I mean I've lived here all my life and in high school my senior year I had to take Alaska studies, and passed with flying colors!!!! (Found that class to be quite insulting)

Alaska has your winters, falls, springs, and summers that will melt your heart and make you  fall in love with the scenery. I love every other season and winters on occasion (mainly on Christmas and New Years Eve) :D
When I travel out of state and show my ID, people stare at it for a good minute or so. In my mind I'm preparing myself to hear whatever outlandish questions they may want to ask; 9 times out of 10 the questions make me giggle.

One time in Seattle aka my second home, this cab driver asked me "if there really are 30 days of night like the movie and do vampires really come out???" This cashier at Macy's asked me: "there really are black people in Alaska?" then as I walk into a bar with my lovely sister buy a drink the bar tender asks: "are you in witness protection? I mean why else would you be there?"

Sigh**** I love it all in all. The things others come up with are always fresh and new it makes me appreciate how I was brought up.

Anywho today will be reaching in the mid 70's and the sun is blazing outside, soon as it's time to get off work I will be MIA  getting lost in the AK weather with the bf. You guy have a fantastic weekend!!!!!

Life Long Commitments!

I'm all smiles today!!! no sarcastic rants and raves with a hint of humor. I seriously woke up very happy! As I log into my Facebook, I see another one of my friends crying in a picture with a beautiful ring on her finger. That brings my total of friends getting engaged in the past month to 5! and the number of my lovelies have babies to 3!!

Life brings along so many what if's, drama, and troubles; it's beautiful to see people (especially when I know them) make that commitment! Jump the broom, tie the ol knot a roo!!! Speaking of weddings I have one to go to this Saturday!!!

All I can say is, Congrats to my friends for their new adventures and may God be with you all in every single step of the way!!!

Kinda a twist for today huh? I know I know, don't worry I'll be back into my sarcastic ways tomorrow :)