Black Is Beautiful

History taught us that being different was not ok and has had some serious repercussions. Not conforming to a mans ways and views of life resulted in many races to be subdued to slavery. Blacks, Hispanics, Asians and even Whites are among the few stories that are shared and told.  Today I will discuss the views of Black, how some of our own kind think and treat us.

On an Episode of TI and Tiny their little boy Major(5) asked TI "Daddy can I have a white woman?" TI just laughed it off and said you can have any woman you want. Watching another episode of Tiny and Toya they touched on the subject of girls and skin for awhile. Then watching the music videos I only see the light skinned Black girls, Hispanic girls or big butt White girls in the videos cuddled next to the stars.

Even actor Idris Elba from England said he wants his first kid to be mixed because he doesn't want them to have nappy hair and dark skin. I don't know if he knows this but, he is dark himself so there is a 50/50 chance that his kid maybe dark as well. Seeing how he is not mixed himself having a kid with  "good hair" will come in choice of mate.



Lil Wayne has even said " I only f**s with that light skinned because everything darker is ugly" Hence that his new fiance is a model of whatever decent and his daughter is dark just like him. There is an article that a young woman published about Wayne and his friends saying: "I was called back to be a video girl in his shoot for lollipop. I brought my friend because I didn't want to go to the shoot alone. After the three day shoot I got invited to his room to have a party with the other girls and his friends. I agreed to go only if i can bring my friend along. My friend and I headed to his room where we were greeted by his friend and showed in. As my friend stepped in the room Wayne was quick to say: "HELL NO, She can't come in, the darkness has to stay out the room" all his other friends laughed and the ladies and I looked at him with disgust. My friend snapped back and said "I'm lighter than your daughter and you and you have the nerve to talk about dark and ugly?" Wayne replied "Difference is my daughter has money so that makes her beautiful you do not so good bye." Ever since then I haven't listened or bought a Wayne album.

After reading this article that has been re published and posted on many sites with no comment from Wayne's team. It's a shame that these two men will say these things publicly or even think this way. Believe it or not they are role models and little ones look up to them. So if they hear or see their fav star doing or saying something absurd they may follow suit. I'm going to end my star bust outs with these two men and continue with my views.

** Being in Alaska there are definitely black people here along with other races. So going out of state and allowing people to see my ID always brings the question to "there's black people in Alaska? and they look like you?" Put a smile on my face because yes there are black people in Alaska, but even being from here seems like other people are still shocked to see black people here. A friend of mine told me that she was once approached by someone who said" I usually don't like black black girls, but your hot" Now let me tell you this friend is not easily offend but hearing something like this is down right rude. OK you gave your compliment  but it came with a smack in the face to my people. Other women I know dark and light agree on the fact that darker women have it hardest when it comes to the black race in general. We are perceived by others and even our men as not being beautiful. Darker skinned women to ultimately have to work harder than the rest. This is something I will never understand. 

It's sad, I've been told myself that I'm the prettiest black person some guys have seen and even women have said this too. Some people even assume that I'm mixed with something because there is no way I can be 100% black. So here it is what I'm mixed with,  I'm Cro-Indian (from India), Trinidadian, Black,Cherokee  and English but since I have that Black in me, to anyone else it doesn't matter what my nationality is I will always be black. Am I Ashamed? Hell no, I don't have to waste money to make myself look how I would want, worry about ageing weird and saggy because my skin is firm and tight through my family and so much more. Being a minority and achieving my goals gets a way bigger reaction that not being a minority. Why? Because it's unexpected, and I love it when I become that someone that's  UNEXPECTED :)

Men I didn't forget about you :) 

Over time for men, some women thought dark men weren't as sexy as light skinned men. Why? Well dark skinned men were publicized as being mean, woman beaters, drinkers, smokers,people who leave their kids, or have multiple kids. Just look up some old advertisements pertaining to black men, you will most likely find a picture with a dark skinned man. This view that was so public was brainwashing many woman to thinking that dark equals bad. Until about the 80's when Hip Hop started to come alive then in the 90's when for instance Tyrese came out and made dark sexy, strong, smart and so much more. After that the tables flipped, dark was in and light was out. Now a days for women that rule is almost washed out, now it doesn't matter as long as you have a good head on your shoulders. Now don't get me wrong some women still have their preference on what they choose. 

Black is beautiful, and so is every other race out there. At times I try to be color blind but it's so hard when people have on their rose colored glasses and still live like it's the 1920's.  Will this view ever go away? Will the pain caused by many wars be forgotten? Will Hitler's reign ever be left out the books? Will Martin Luther King Jr's speech be erased and never heard of again? Will JFK's murder be overlooked? or will Abraham Lincoln freeing the slaves be brushed off as if it never happened? absolutely not. It's a battle, a thought and a memory that will always live as long as this earth is still rotating and people are still living.

Say what you want, no matter what my nationality is to it's entirety, I'm Black and I think it's  beautiful

The EX That Refuses to Stay That Way...

Girl: I thought we had something?

Boy: Yeah like months ago 

Girl: So are we officially done?

Boy: It's been almost 4 months

Girl: I still have faith in us

It happens to almost all of us who get into a relationship. We are happy seem to be unbreakable and start to make future plans. THEN out of no where and out of our control, there is always an EX Girlfriend/Boyfriend that hasn't given up hope. It starts off by he/she calling or texting  randomly just to say hi, check in, get an update. What happens when your ex finds out about your new beau? That one call or text turns into many more contact attempts, random bumping into each other which leads to the desperate outbursts of wanting them back!!!!!!

My ladies, ugh..... When we see our ex who treated us like a princess but we were being a spoiled brat and let him go. Say he is in shape, hanging with friends, happy and has a pretty new thing on his side.Wanna know what some women do in this case? Usually with the females in this role, they cry, try to bring up how you made them feel so good and what not, try to pry back into your families lives and start conversations with your friends. Trying every route to get back into your life some way or another. Then when you (the male) don't bite on that petty bull crap, what does she do? She turns around and starts saying how independent she is, she never needed you, you were holding her back, and now she happy with someone else. Really? Just two seconds ago you wanted his "Ego"* and now you're pulling a WEBBIE and miss I N D E P E N D E N T*?  Crazy!!!  

Now for our fellas who are wearing this shoe. You see your ex girl, she is happy, smiling that smile you used to put on her face. She is lighting up the room like never before, body is looking good because she didn't let herself go after you let her go and now she has a new man who is strikingly handsome, smart and everything you weren't. What do guys do in this situation? Well they aren't ALL as dramatic as the female route (but some are trust me..) instead they call and text cracking a joke or just saying what's up. Then those calls and texts start to become longer conversations. Guys have a slicker way of getting back into a females life, they have a certain swagg to it. Their patience really kicks in, soon they are in the friend zone and after awhile here they try to dominate as if they are Mufasa. Taking that role of friendship to a whole other level. When the female catches on she soon shuts him out and shows him the door. What happens after this? That female now becomes all kinds of bad names,  all of a sudden that guy now has plenty of women lined up, and it's nothing. Hmmm, now I'm a whore whose no good but yet you were JUST barking up my tree? Nice...

Some people just don't understand that relationships are meant for two! If it didn't work out with you and someone else in the beginning then hell it's not supposed to. Now it's hard to maintain a decent relationship because not only do people post it on Social Networking sites, it's so much easier to manipulate someone else. Draw them away from their current and have them be willing to do certain things. It's now broadcasted! By it I mean SEX! It's everywhere and so easy to get. It's a shame, the one who is worth the fight and scaring off exes will be the one you won't have to worry about. So stop rushing and be patient, he or she will come at the RIGHT time. For all that other drama, if your significant other wants to stray show them the door. 

* "Ego" meaning of the Ego used in Beyonce and Kanye West song. Webbie a  rapper has a hit single called  INDEPENDENT 

Examples used are from previous experience with my exes and watching how some of my friends have reacted with their exes. 

Don't Let Them Ruin Your Party

We all have those days when life is great, your job is running smooth, the fam bam is alright and your significant other is being perfectly amazing. THEN we run into that ONE person whose main purpose for the day is to be mean and an ass because they slept on the wrong side of the bed that morning.

So here you come, skipping into work saying hi, smiling, happy, you have that Friday feeling going on when SHA BAM! You're smacked in the face with that Debbie Downer co worker whose sitting at the table, playing words with friends, drinking coffee, and complaining about the sun being to bright. You try your best to stay positive and keep speaking highly and smiling, but he continues to make your day suck just because he wants to. Now that smiley party you had looks more like this ------------------------->

Being a sad pug is no fun at all! What happened to your party?? Don't let the others take that balloon blowing, helium sucking fun having feeling away!

 Here's what you do:

Tell them to talk to the hand, or you can do what I do, and pretend to listen and care but really I'm in my own world. If you haven't noticed,  it's a known fact that other people don't like to see others happy when they feel like shit. In some peoples mind the world does revolve around them, and when it doesn't they aren't so happy.  Life is to dang short to worry, stress, be sad, mad, angry whatever! Life is to short to be anything but appreciative and happy that you are alive. This is easier to say than to do. I have my times to where someone just pisses me off to the T and I want to do some really mean things! I sit and marinate on what I would like to do and say to this lovely individual, but then I quickly come to realize that their life probably sucks. Why else would someone want to poop on your parade? Happy people with something great going for them at the moment wont waste their time. BUT the ones who aren't in that position at that moment, will be more than happy to pop your balloon. 

So POO on you Party Poopers! I'd rather have a party by myself and be the happiest person ever than have a party and invite one lame that can ruin it. :) Smile 

Beautiful Alaska

See Alaska and I... we have this love hate type of relationship, winter time we seem to do nothing but fight and bicker but when the so sweet summer comes my way, I can't help but fall right back in love.  You see people complain about Alaska and say " isn't there snow 24/7?" "do you have a pet polar bear?"  OR now my recent favorite, "what's Sara Palin really like??"  People make me laugh with the things they really believe goes on here. So to answer these questions " no there is not snow 24/7" and "no I don't own a polar bear he was shot down for protecting our pet penguins" and "I have no idea how Sara Palin really is, never met her."

Many people from Alaska get irritated by the simple questions and I have to keep reminding people that I know and myself at times, don't blame them for what they know; it's not like  education on how Alaska really is, is being taught. I mean I've lived here all my life and in high school my senior year I had to take Alaska studies, and passed with flying colors!!!! (Found that class to be quite insulting)

Alaska has your winters, falls, springs, and summers that will melt your heart and make you  fall in love with the scenery. I love every other season and winters on occasion (mainly on Christmas and New Years Eve) :D
When I travel out of state and show my ID, people stare at it for a good minute or so. In my mind I'm preparing myself to hear whatever outlandish questions they may want to ask; 9 times out of 10 the questions make me giggle.

One time in Seattle aka my second home, this cab driver asked me "if there really are 30 days of night like the movie and do vampires really come out???" This cashier at Macy's asked me: "there really are black people in Alaska?" then as I walk into a bar with my lovely sister buy a drink the bar tender asks: "are you in witness protection? I mean why else would you be there?"

Sigh**** I love it all in all. The things others come up with are always fresh and new it makes me appreciate how I was brought up.

Anywho today will be reaching in the mid 70's and the sun is blazing outside, soon as it's time to get off work I will be MIA  getting lost in the AK weather with the bf. You guy have a fantastic weekend!!!!!

Reality TV... Where is the Reality?

Ah, soo from grease balls, glorifying teen pregnancy, giving lame celebrities a LAST CHANCE OF FAME while being on a rehab show to the dating shows, reality TV is nothing but scripted.

I don't watch reality TV shows a lot, I will admit I got sucked into Jersey Shore but only for the first season, Some times I watch Basketball Wives for the mere amusement of watching females argue about pointless crap and guess what NONE OF THEM ARE EVEN MARRIED TO BBALL PLAYERS!!! Because the real women who are married to the players are to busy keeping their private life separate. They should change the name to Basketball Exes; and Now Bristol Palin has a reality show. 

I won't watch this one at all, I didn't even bother to tune into the show the Palin family had in the first place. Now you may ask why? Your from Alaska Ebony why wont you watch them?!!??! Ummm because my life is not lame and never consisted of the Palin's in the first place to care about what they do outside of the government. I hardly cared when she was Governor in the first place, so to allow her to take up space in my DVR and consume my brain with accents and guns while making a fool of yourself by not even knowing the amendments..... no thank you... 

There are a lot of interesting people that I wouldn't mind watching on TV. My sister used to be hooked on Real World and Road Rules, now I believe she likes Big Brother ( I don't get that show). Me I would watch something that had to do more with music and real artists not wanna be's or people trying to come back. Show me something from the producers and song writers point of view, after all what is an artist without those people anyway. Perfect example of a good reality show TRUE LIFE on MTV. Keep reality TV just that a reality not fictional and more people might be prone to watch it; and for goodness sake bring back the real MTV or at least change the call letters to RTV (Reality TV) or BSTV ( I think you know what I mean by that).