Relapses

Relapses can be the most dangerous thing for us as people. Whether it be with drinking, using drugs or relationships. Most of us have seen someone we love go through some kind of relapse  I know I've seen plenty of this while growing up, and it's one of the most scary lonely feelings in the world.

So what do you do when you see someone going through this? What do you do if you're going through this? This is a tough question and leaves me to answer this based on experience and asking those closets to me. When my loved one was facing a relapse and started to drink again, it tore me apart the others around us. Staging an intervention was the best thing we could have ever done. But yes, we all had thoughts and doubts in our mind. We all were worried that maybe she will take it wrong and leave us all or lash out and become even more violent. Nonetheless  we had the intervention, touching, heartfelt, so many tears filled the room; now she is healthy happy and loves us more each day.


I also had a close friend dear to my heart that was hooked on a certain type of drug. His family didn't know how to deal so they kicked him out the house.His friends were either selling the drug or using themselves so he was constantly around this. There seemed to be no hope or light because all the people he ran too catered to his addiction or pushed him away. He pushed me away because I tried to help, but then I realized no matter how much you try, no matter how much you love someone you can't help those who don't want to be helped. So I prayed and prayed. Months went by with no communication and that ate me up. Then I get a call for his funeral 4 months after he lashed out on me for helping.....

Relationship relapses are just as effective, they can have either result. Say you're with someone whose abusive (mentally or physically) you "leave" but come back, or you take them back (I use them because this can be either a man or woman). Over time that hurt, that pain, those words that were said, those actions that were done and those broken promises and false hopes will ware on someone. But there is always something holding you in why? it's the possibility  it's the "Well we used to be" its the "we once were" excuses, and my favorite that I've used the "potential if time is given" excuse. By staying with someone who is in those stages it can be deadly. Shows like Snapped and TV channels like ID don't exist just because. Love is the most deadly thing a human and have. It can blind you and make you do crazy things. This is the most common and self hurting addiction out there. It slowly can kill you from the inside out and make you lose your mind. I had a friend, who turned someone down and got out of her relationship. She continued to mess with his head on the daily, calling texting, I love you and so forth. When he pleaded his pure little heart out to her one more time she shut the door on him and went with someone else (again); I recall this going on for a good 6 months. SO much emotion overwhelmed him, he stalked outside the house we were at one nigh and waited for her. He then followed her and ran her over. She's now in a wheel chair legs shattered and all; he on the other hand killed himself while still in the car.


Relapses it hurts, can kill and leave you without the ones you love. Seeing people go through them is tough  but going though it your self is even harder.

Cherish What You Have Before It's Gone

She sits and waits as her prince comes in and takes
He yells and kicks, screams like there's no one around
She sits and takes it, holding back emotions and her frown
Her heart beats for him, but it's slowly starting to stop

One day he comes home
She's tired, worked a lot
He sees no dinner and starts a commotion
"you lazy woman, where's my food?"
He yells at the top of his lungs
hand in the air and face all crunched up.

"I'm sorry" she replied "I lost track of time"
Little did he know she was working both jobs
and just wanted to be home.
Her back was weak, her wrists didn't bend with ease
her makeup was non existent an her body grew fragile and skin pale


He lives in disbelief
his world is his
having an affair with a much younger mistress
forgetting about home and traveling else where
his new found love had so much life and love to spear!


He does not noticed because he's stuck in his own zone
He does not see that his queen, his wife, his lady is slowly perishing
He does not notice that she lost 20lbs
He does not see the pain in her face when taking each step day by day

Instead he sees a dirty house
Laundry not done
Dinner uncooked
Dishes left in the sink
and a wife that's sleeping

Shes been beat down
by the man she loves
Yet while fragile and weak her spine is strong enough to carry it all

The next day the man comes home
Sees the same thing as before
He slams down his suitcase and walks up the stairs
he noticed his wife's fragile body and thinning hair
Instead of checking on her he begins to yell
Throws a chair and papers in the air
Pulls off the covers and hits her with a pillow

Storming out the room and down the stairs
5 minutes pass the time
No wife rushing to his aide?
Dinner still not made?
He stomps up the stairs and yells "WOMAN GET THE HELL UP!"
No response no movement at all

He walks to her side and sits on the bed
places his hand on her head
Feels the coldness of her body
the weakness of her breath
He took time to calm down and notice he was in a room full of death

He began to cry in disbelief
he noticed she was holding a letter tight and close to her chest
Taking it away and opening it up slowly he began to read

"My dearest love of all, 

you don't notice me and failed at many things 

I never doubted you or made you feel less of a man. 

I held you high when others told me to let you fall. 

I placed you so close and dear to my heart.

 The day we said I DO I took my vows serious. 

Now I know I was more serious than you. 

After finding lipstick on shirts, and cuff links missing, 

after following you one day to the Marriott and your rescheduled meetings.

 I knew what you were doing, but I thought you would be man enough

 to tell me. Instead you infected me, hurt me and killed me. 

If you bothered to speak to me, you would know I've been 

diagnosed with AIDS. Thanks to you and your mistress 

you two can now live in peace. No more headaches for you 

and no more pain for me

-Love the ever so faithful "