That Irritable Time Bomb

There comes a time in ALL of our lives when we become a ticking time bomb. We start out nice, understanding and patient. But then you always come across that ONE person who can ruin and take advantage of your niceness. Am I right? So what happens to those
people who smile and try to be positive? from a collection of asking friends, strangers, family and personal experience I came up with the most common answers in the following situations.



Relationships!
Many of us want one, some want to stay away and little girls grow up wanting that prince charming. This can go either way, the man or woman in the relationship will be nice, forgiving overlook plenty of things that may bother them and make them think twice about their relationship. Soon the partner knows what they can get away with and.... (guess what happens!) THEY KEEP DOING IT! Soon they are able to do certain things and the other person will be scolded for doing the same actions. This is more common than normal. Bad thing about this is that one person soon starts to veer off and question on if this relationship will work despite the "love" they might feel & typically end the relationship.


Work!

There's always that ONE co-worker who takes ideas and secretly sales it as their own. The new person to the group is innocent and naive to the situations at hand because they are simply trying to fit in. What happens in this situation? Well soon that nice guy/gal turns into the Hulk becomes a dick or bitch (whatever term you would prefer to use) and starts to really shake things up in the office. Bad thing about this is that the new person will be fired because the boss will usually see the back end of things and not the whole picture; classic case of peer pressure.




Family!
This one is tricky and the most common. You have that parent, cousin, sibling, aunt or uncle who are all smiles and usually wants something. Whether it be listening to a drunken conversational topic you've heard a million times, to borrowing only $5 for the 30th time, to even keeping dirty secrets that backfire on the ear lender. Not much you can do about this category unless you decide to cut off your family members. Bad thing about being stuck as the nice guy in your family is that you will always be considered that and be taken advantage of; sooner or later you will lash out and ruin those family bonds.



Being a irritable time bomb is no fun I've been that before and when I exploded it wasn't pretty. To manage that I cut off plenty of people found my me time. Now I'll be honest I've lost that me time and I'm slowly going back to that ticking bomb, this time I know what to do to avoid that and avoid hurting peoples feelings (see I can have a heart at times :D)

Holiday Season! Where's the Cheer?

THANKSGIVING is right around the corner!! Yet stores are already putting up Christmas stuff and dismissing Thanksgiving all in one. People are getting their knee pads ready for black Friday sales, and already know when they are going to wake up and where they are going to hit. Instead of focusing on getting meals prepared and thanking God for what they are thankful for.

Soon after the feast is over, we take a quick power nap and then think about Christmas! A majority of people think about the presents, and how much money they have to spend. While others like me cherish this time and the people who they kept close. Kids are excited for Santa, mom is preparing the snacks she will leave out, dad is working twice as hard to make sure the kids get a great Christmas yet again. All for the superficial, give me this and that nature. Forgetting that Christmas is about Christ and not us, forgetting that Christmas is the  time to spend with family and not just to enjoy the material things.


Then the year is over.  We all sit and think back on the good times this past year had brought us, and slowly laugh at the pain that traveled our way. Before we know it, we are finding someone to kiss at midnight. Then our year starts all over again in 2013. In the beginning we have hope and make goals aka resolutions that we all tend to forget and dismiss around February.

Why? To start the whole tradition all over again. 

Where did the true meaning of the holiday season go? The family time spent, listening to music, talking, watching parades on television and breathing in the brisk air while genuinely feeling happy?  As years went by it's been replaced by buying off our loved ones instead of telling them you love them. Now we want instead of enjoy the basic necessities. We've been commercialized.


This year (even though it was never far from me) I plan on restoring those values. This holiday season is a blessing and has brought so much since last season. I have nothing but gratefulness in my heart, prayers that will continue to be said, and  a big smile to be worn.

Fight Through The "NO"

Yeah, that ugly two letter word we all hate!!! 

Some people want many things in life, and don't work for it. A lot of people in this world don't work as hard as others because they have ties or mommy and daddy or my favorite MONEY! So it makes us normal people who work hard. blood sweat and tears hard; have to work 10x more to even get our foot in the door.

It's unfair and down right rude that's why some people give up! SOME have the mindset that there's no need to go for it because someone will always get there before me, someone will always be ahead of the game!

Let me tell you something, things that are meant to last don't GET HANDED to people. DREAMS that are meant to happen and be successful aren't going to those who call mommy and daddy and rely on their money. GOALS that are meant to be reached wont be satisfied by someone who didn't sweat for it.

There is NO LONG TERM SATISFACTION for the people who are spoiled. They rely on the money and other people to make things happen. They are weak and not self aware let alone independent enough to keep the ball rolling. Hence the celebrity break downs among those who get things handed to them, the career flops and so on. Take away those ties and cash, and you'll be left with a self loathing, cry baby who can barely wipe their own ass.

When you try and go for a goal, don't be mad at all the NO'S you WILL receive. Instead look at those No's as a blessing. That means, what ever company you are trying to be noticed by isn't the right fit. There is a yes down the line, you just have to have the drive, determination  mind set, and STRENGTH to find it. There will be a shit load of No's that will come your way. SIMPLY because you are not ready! Then you will hit a maybe one or two maybe a few more; which will let you know you are almost there. Then when you have grown, and accepted and defeated NO you will walk through an unsuspecting door of yes.


So stop thinking you're entitled to something because you have knowledge about it and been doing it for awhile. STOP thinking the world owes you, please for the love of humanity STOP blaming people, getting snippy and whinny;and last but not least STOP looking at others and expecting to have the same outcome.

Everyone journey is different.

Let Them Play...

Pageants....... Sigh 

Beauty pageants..... they are everywhere and seem to be the main attraction in Texas! Young girls put into pageants to be judged on beauty and what they know. How can they judge little girls on knowledge when most of them can hardly spell? The amount of time parents put into their kids for them to be able to do pageants is amazing! Makes me wonder, is this really for your little princess? Or is this some dream you weren't able to live?

Many parents put their kids through it for themselves and sooner or later when the child grows up it becomes something they want to be because it's all they know. On one episode of Toddlers and Tiaras, there was this one pageant child who told her mom that she didn't want to do it, she was 3 at the time. Her mother replied with "well you have no choice." Is that really what we are teaching our young girls? That LIFE itself is a pageant? and  being the one with the best shell, false smile, fake hair and will win? IN most cases this is true depending on what industry you enter in. WHAT is not showcased in these pageants is that EDUCATION plus beauty can take you to higher places than just being someones eye candy.

Ups & Downs

Ups: 

The ups on putting your child through pageants is giving them a chance to be creative, interact with other young girls, learn competition, earn money (hopefully for school), and to be active. There probably are many more but these are the only pluses I see. 

Downs:

The downs on child's pageants for me go as follows: make up caked on (hiding their true selves), tight clothes, and unwanted attention from predators! Like the most well known case of JonBenet Ramsey, an adorable pageant child who won numerous awards and pageants. She was found dead in her basement, case is still unsolved. God and the killer are the only ones who know what happened to this little girl. At these pageants there aren't guidelines on to who can enter. You never know if you're sitting next to a child predator who's praying on his next victim; this person can be MALE OR FEMALE! Or if that judge at the table is doing unspeakable things with your child while the curtains are down. It's an open field and play ground for anyone to step their foot on. Exploiting your child in bikini;'s, makeup, teaching them to switch their hips and flaunt everything they have around stage is ridiculous. 

These babies don't know any better, they are just kids. Having to be transformed into a woman on stage is normal to them. Sure many would argue about poise and grace and all that good stuff, but the truth of the matter is, you never know who will or might follow you home. You never know who is a predator until your little princess is treated like a grown woman. The grown woman you turn her into when she's on stage. 

I don't understand. Maybe I would be pro-pageant IF they allowed the kids to be judged on how they really are. By that I mean, looks no make up, let them dress themselves, pick their own talents and so forth. Let them be a child on stage, the child they are meant to be at that point in their lives. Maybe if that would happen, I would agree, until then this is where I stand and how I feel. 

Shits for Giggles.. Don't Cross Here Deer!!!

Originally I wasn't going to write a blog BUT I saw this video that made me want to post it and share! The things some people believe and actually think is just amazing! Listen to how this lady truly believes that deer know and comprehend deer crossing signs..

Thank you Amy James for this great laugh