It Only Takes One

So because of James Holmes who shot up the Colorado movie theater... 3 more men have been arrested because either they want to shoot up a theater or have seen the movie and want to shoot something/someone. In Maine Timothy Courtious was caught speeding and told police something unbelievable! Courtious said he was on his way to shoot up a former co-worker. While police searched Courtious' car they found an AK-47, four handguns, ammunition and news clippings from the Colorado shooting. Why? Well after he saw Dark Knight Rises and the Colorado Shooter of course! So out of ALL the people in the world, this guy chooses the Colorado shooter as his idol?  In good old Los Angeles 52 year old Clark Tabor stood up in the theater and said "I should go off like Colorado! Anybody have a gun?" Tabor was quickly arrested... James Holmes seems to be a hero and superstar for the crazy people of America and probably around the world soon enough. 

The sad thing about James Holmes is that he's not crazy; he's just a man who acted out his fantasy. If he was crazy I doubt he would have planned months ahead to make this happen. If he was truly crazy it wouldn’t have been planned he would've just done it. Looking dazed with crazy hair and out of tune in a court room does make you look insane and justifies why you would try to plead with reason of insanity. BUT I hope the jury is smart enough to see right through the act of "insane" and go off him being normal and should be held accountable for his actions. 

It only takes ONE person to act this way to create complete chaos. It's a shame that A LOT of people are easily influenced.... That's the scary part. 

Weekend Getaways

Happy Friday!!!!! 

As we all know, I try to make my Friday posts a little more light on the eyes. Today is a happy day (not just because it's Friday) but because I woke up with a whole new attitude. Lets just say all God's blessings are being shown to me and I'm grateful.

This weekend is a chance for me to relax, enjoy and think on many things. My little weekend getaway will be just that, out of town and surrounded by fun, my love and no communication aka phone is put away. Want to relax a little? DO something for you this weekend. Go to a movie, get a massage, eat with friends or family and turn off your phone. Be disconnected with the world for a couple hours if not the entire weekend. Get back to you and re-up on energy, you deserve it.

Black Is Beautiful

History taught us that being different was not ok and has had some serious repercussions. Not conforming to a mans ways and views of life resulted in many races to be subdued to slavery. Blacks, Hispanics, Asians and even Whites are among the few stories that are shared and told.  Today I will discuss the views of Black, how some of our own kind think and treat us.

On an Episode of TI and Tiny their little boy Major(5) asked TI "Daddy can I have a white woman?" TI just laughed it off and said you can have any woman you want. Watching another episode of Tiny and Toya they touched on the subject of girls and skin for awhile. Then watching the music videos I only see the light skinned Black girls, Hispanic girls or big butt White girls in the videos cuddled next to the stars.

Even actor Idris Elba from England said he wants his first kid to be mixed because he doesn't want them to have nappy hair and dark skin. I don't know if he knows this but, he is dark himself so there is a 50/50 chance that his kid maybe dark as well. Seeing how he is not mixed himself having a kid with  "good hair" will come in choice of mate.



Lil Wayne has even said " I only f**s with that light skinned because everything darker is ugly" Hence that his new fiance is a model of whatever decent and his daughter is dark just like him. There is an article that a young woman published about Wayne and his friends saying: "I was called back to be a video girl in his shoot for lollipop. I brought my friend because I didn't want to go to the shoot alone. After the three day shoot I got invited to his room to have a party with the other girls and his friends. I agreed to go only if i can bring my friend along. My friend and I headed to his room where we were greeted by his friend and showed in. As my friend stepped in the room Wayne was quick to say: "HELL NO, She can't come in, the darkness has to stay out the room" all his other friends laughed and the ladies and I looked at him with disgust. My friend snapped back and said "I'm lighter than your daughter and you and you have the nerve to talk about dark and ugly?" Wayne replied "Difference is my daughter has money so that makes her beautiful you do not so good bye." Ever since then I haven't listened or bought a Wayne album.

After reading this article that has been re published and posted on many sites with no comment from Wayne's team. It's a shame that these two men will say these things publicly or even think this way. Believe it or not they are role models and little ones look up to them. So if they hear or see their fav star doing or saying something absurd they may follow suit. I'm going to end my star bust outs with these two men and continue with my views.

** Being in Alaska there are definitely black people here along with other races. So going out of state and allowing people to see my ID always brings the question to "there's black people in Alaska? and they look like you?" Put a smile on my face because yes there are black people in Alaska, but even being from here seems like other people are still shocked to see black people here. A friend of mine told me that she was once approached by someone who said" I usually don't like black black girls, but your hot" Now let me tell you this friend is not easily offend but hearing something like this is down right rude. OK you gave your compliment  but it came with a smack in the face to my people. Other women I know dark and light agree on the fact that darker women have it hardest when it comes to the black race in general. We are perceived by others and even our men as not being beautiful. Darker skinned women to ultimately have to work harder than the rest. This is something I will never understand. 

It's sad, I've been told myself that I'm the prettiest black person some guys have seen and even women have said this too. Some people even assume that I'm mixed with something because there is no way I can be 100% black. So here it is what I'm mixed with,  I'm Cro-Indian (from India), Trinidadian, Black,Cherokee  and English but since I have that Black in me, to anyone else it doesn't matter what my nationality is I will always be black. Am I Ashamed? Hell no, I don't have to waste money to make myself look how I would want, worry about ageing weird and saggy because my skin is firm and tight through my family and so much more. Being a minority and achieving my goals gets a way bigger reaction that not being a minority. Why? Because it's unexpected, and I love it when I become that someone that's  UNEXPECTED :)

Men I didn't forget about you :) 

Over time for men, some women thought dark men weren't as sexy as light skinned men. Why? Well dark skinned men were publicized as being mean, woman beaters, drinkers, smokers,people who leave their kids, or have multiple kids. Just look up some old advertisements pertaining to black men, you will most likely find a picture with a dark skinned man. This view that was so public was brainwashing many woman to thinking that dark equals bad. Until about the 80's when Hip Hop started to come alive then in the 90's when for instance Tyrese came out and made dark sexy, strong, smart and so much more. After that the tables flipped, dark was in and light was out. Now a days for women that rule is almost washed out, now it doesn't matter as long as you have a good head on your shoulders. Now don't get me wrong some women still have their preference on what they choose. 

Black is beautiful, and so is every other race out there. At times I try to be color blind but it's so hard when people have on their rose colored glasses and still live like it's the 1920's.  Will this view ever go away? Will the pain caused by many wars be forgotten? Will Hitler's reign ever be left out the books? Will Martin Luther King Jr's speech be erased and never heard of again? Will JFK's murder be overlooked? or will Abraham Lincoln freeing the slaves be brushed off as if it never happened? absolutely not. It's a battle, a thought and a memory that will always live as long as this earth is still rotating and people are still living.

Say what you want, no matter what my nationality is to it's entirety, I'm Black and I think it's  beautiful

The EX That Refuses to Stay That Way...

Girl: I thought we had something?

Boy: Yeah like months ago 

Girl: So are we officially done?

Boy: It's been almost 4 months

Girl: I still have faith in us

It happens to almost all of us who get into a relationship. We are happy seem to be unbreakable and start to make future plans. THEN out of no where and out of our control, there is always an EX Girlfriend/Boyfriend that hasn't given up hope. It starts off by he/she calling or texting  randomly just to say hi, check in, get an update. What happens when your ex finds out about your new beau? That one call or text turns into many more contact attempts, random bumping into each other which leads to the desperate outbursts of wanting them back!!!!!!

My ladies, ugh..... When we see our ex who treated us like a princess but we were being a spoiled brat and let him go. Say he is in shape, hanging with friends, happy and has a pretty new thing on his side.Wanna know what some women do in this case? Usually with the females in this role, they cry, try to bring up how you made them feel so good and what not, try to pry back into your families lives and start conversations with your friends. Trying every route to get back into your life some way or another. Then when you (the male) don't bite on that petty bull crap, what does she do? She turns around and starts saying how independent she is, she never needed you, you were holding her back, and now she happy with someone else. Really? Just two seconds ago you wanted his "Ego"* and now you're pulling a WEBBIE and miss I N D E P E N D E N T*?  Crazy!!!  

Now for our fellas who are wearing this shoe. You see your ex girl, she is happy, smiling that smile you used to put on her face. She is lighting up the room like never before, body is looking good because she didn't let herself go after you let her go and now she has a new man who is strikingly handsome, smart and everything you weren't. What do guys do in this situation? Well they aren't ALL as dramatic as the female route (but some are trust me..) instead they call and text cracking a joke or just saying what's up. Then those calls and texts start to become longer conversations. Guys have a slicker way of getting back into a females life, they have a certain swagg to it. Their patience really kicks in, soon they are in the friend zone and after awhile here they try to dominate as if they are Mufasa. Taking that role of friendship to a whole other level. When the female catches on she soon shuts him out and shows him the door. What happens after this? That female now becomes all kinds of bad names,  all of a sudden that guy now has plenty of women lined up, and it's nothing. Hmmm, now I'm a whore whose no good but yet you were JUST barking up my tree? Nice...

Some people just don't understand that relationships are meant for two! If it didn't work out with you and someone else in the beginning then hell it's not supposed to. Now it's hard to maintain a decent relationship because not only do people post it on Social Networking sites, it's so much easier to manipulate someone else. Draw them away from their current and have them be willing to do certain things. It's now broadcasted! By it I mean SEX! It's everywhere and so easy to get. It's a shame, the one who is worth the fight and scaring off exes will be the one you won't have to worry about. So stop rushing and be patient, he or she will come at the RIGHT time. For all that other drama, if your significant other wants to stray show them the door. 

* "Ego" meaning of the Ego used in Beyonce and Kanye West song. Webbie a  rapper has a hit single called  INDEPENDENT 

Examples used are from previous experience with my exes and watching how some of my friends have reacted with their exes. 

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