We've all heard it before; forgiveness is an essential part of life. Forgiveness is not for the other person; it's for you and so on. How many of us believe that is the truth the first time we heard it? Now, how many of us believe it to be true after we chose to forgive?
I would say, that at first in this journey of life, I wasn't quick to forgive. Instead, I would marinate like a steak overnight; I would sit in a pit of sadness which would lead to anger and then irrational thinking. I would allow myself to be overtaken by this feeling of grief all because of someone else. Then I would have excuses as to why I felt this way; it was always because so and so did this or that. The truth is, yes so and so did this and that and yes they hurt me and yes they scared me and yes it has caused me to have my guard up. I cannot control what someone else does; however, I can control what I do next and what happens after that. Everything that happens after we've been hurt happens because of the next card we pull from the deck. You can sit in sorrow, you can be mad and pissed off at the world, but what does that bring to you after? More hurt, shame, hate? Is it truly worth it?
That is why people say to forgive others because it truly does set you free. Emotions are one hell of a thing to deal with, and they all have consequences. I found that the power of forgiveness was the reason for my current state of mind, success and happiness. I no longer hate the people who hurt me, who lied to me, who back-stabbed me, who cheated on me, who physically assaulted me, who sexually assaulted me, who didn't believe me, who blamed me, who doubted me and who made me feel less than the queen that I know I am now. Instead of hating, allowing my blood to boil to a point of red faces and high blood pressure medication, I choose to pray for them and continued healing of forgiveness in my heart.
It's so easy to be overruled by emotions and self-pity all because so and so did this and that. It's time to love yourself and take charge of your life, and one of those first steps comes from forgiveness. Not for the other person, because you deserve to live the best life possible.
<3 Ebony
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Tuesday, April 5, 2016
Wednesday, March 9, 2016
Woman's Body
People lost their cool when Kim Kardashian posted another nude picture to her social media. (click here to check out the pic) Celebrities chimed in; fans praised Kim K, and others were just flat out rude. I want to know, why is it a surprise that she posted another nude picture? We have seen her naked plenty of times, and heck her launch to fame started off of a sex tape. I don't see an issue with it because well I LOVE the woman's body. It is beautiful, it is strong, and it has plenty of stories to tell from lying about orgasms to scars from an ex to its remarkable recovery rate from creating another human inside of it.
You have to invest your money in other areas besides beauty. Most people see the exterior of the Kardashians, their ridiculously long-running reality show that has NO SUBSTANCE and assume that things are handed to them. What they do not see, is the hard work, dedication, sleepless nights, long hours, days missed with friends and family to be on the road to stay relevant and rich. There is always more than what meets the eye; which is why I stopped judging celebrities and how they live.
There are ways for women to be heard, make a career, find love, have money and live happily ever after without showing their entire bodies. Yes, this is true. We also need to take into consideration, that some people don't have that luxury of having other outlets. So for those women, they do turn to being naked and using their assets to make their way. I don't mind either hustle, as a woman I can understand, but I can not relate to that path. I won't point a finger or judge because I don't know what it's like to walk in those shoes. All I know is that you have to do what you have to do.
Women are so hard on each other the most; it's a sad thing to see and read. We preach equality, rights and a bunch of other things. When someone is happy and embracing their sexuality i.e. Rihanna, Kim Kardashian, Amber Rose, Pamela Anderson, Tyra Banks, Chrissy Teigen, those women get dragged to hell, WHY? Sexuality is a great thing, it's a beautiful thing, and the woman's body is incredible. It's okay to talk about sex, use sex, say you enjoy sex, express yourself, show your body, hide your body, keep quiet, or be loud.. TO EACH THEIR OWN. If you don't like what these women post, then stop looking.
The older I get, the more I understand Britney Spears' 2007 meltdown. Live your life and focus on yourself instead of hating on the next woman who made it, is making a way, or determined to be somebody
-Ebony
You have to invest your money in other areas besides beauty. Most people see the exterior of the Kardashians, their ridiculously long-running reality show that has NO SUBSTANCE and assume that things are handed to them. What they do not see, is the hard work, dedication, sleepless nights, long hours, days missed with friends and family to be on the road to stay relevant and rich. There is always more than what meets the eye; which is why I stopped judging celebrities and how they live.
There are ways for women to be heard, make a career, find love, have money and live happily ever after without showing their entire bodies. Yes, this is true. We also need to take into consideration, that some people don't have that luxury of having other outlets. So for those women, they do turn to being naked and using their assets to make their way. I don't mind either hustle, as a woman I can understand, but I can not relate to that path. I won't point a finger or judge because I don't know what it's like to walk in those shoes. All I know is that you have to do what you have to do.
Women are so hard on each other the most; it's a sad thing to see and read. We preach equality, rights and a bunch of other things. When someone is happy and embracing their sexuality i.e. Rihanna, Kim Kardashian, Amber Rose, Pamela Anderson, Tyra Banks, Chrissy Teigen, those women get dragged to hell, WHY? Sexuality is a great thing, it's a beautiful thing, and the woman's body is incredible. It's okay to talk about sex, use sex, say you enjoy sex, express yourself, show your body, hide your body, keep quiet, or be loud.. TO EACH THEIR OWN. If you don't like what these women post, then stop looking.
The older I get, the more I understand Britney Spears' 2007 meltdown. Live your life and focus on yourself instead of hating on the next woman who made it, is making a way, or determined to be somebody
-Ebony
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