The Reality of Reality

I see pictures of gorgeous actresses and musicians that grace the covers of Vogue, Cosmopolitan, Complex and King etc. On television I hear "bitch this" or "that nigga ain't shit" or "you slept with so and so" or "try me" I think you know where I'm headed with this. It's sad, depressing, and unfortunately a reality for many people.

We see these things, and a lot of time we "oo and awe" at the drama. We post things to our Facebook and Twitter about how good "Love and Hip Hop" was even though it's a disgrace that Hollywood executives call entertainment. We laugh, but did you ever think in reality they are laughing at us? Let's face it, we all have been that ratchet girl on the television, did a little Miley Cyrus activity, been with a dude who's like Stevie J or hey even acted like Stevie J. That is reality and they are just broadcasting it. Now since it's highlighted on television, that type of behavior is now "IN?"

 Being ratchet is no longer frowned upon it's now an expectation. Sounding like you can't pronounce certain words or use certain articulation is now acceptable. It's upsetting to see the inanity with the English language. People don't expect much from our generation anymore, these shows don't help, and we don't help our image either.

This year has been the year of self expression, I'm not knocking anyone for acting sexually, for wanting to explore we are all grown. I'm not judging those who think that "twerking" on everything that has a penis is okay, and I'm sure as hell not pointing the finger on your misuse of language. I'm surprised that for those who act this way turn around and post on Facebook how "niggas aint shit" or "solo dolo don't need em" or "fuck love Imma do me"  okay fine, VENT. Just come to reality that if you act a certain way you will attract that type of person. If you want something different that's easy God says it "CHANGE" it  might not happen tomorrow or the next day.

2013 the year of the ratchet and classless. The year that twerking was noticed (despite the fact it's BEEN around for years)  the year that almost EVERYONE got it in some way or another and the year where butt injections and implants were highlighted killing thousands of women around the world all because that's portrayed as beautiful.

This blog  was inspired by the lyrical reality of  @yesLIVcan  , so with that I wonder what 2014 will bring? I hope it's the year where simplicity is overturned by dreams and aspirations to achieve them.  I hope it's the year of the ladies and gentlemen. The year where reading makes a comeback and words are spelled correctly. The year where education is sexy again instead of how big your butt injects are. Or maybe I might push the line with this one, but the year where women actually compliment one another and not throw shade because her outfit looks better than yours. A girl can only hope right?

RIP Nelson Mandela

Nelson Mandela passed away today, click the link to be redirected to ABC for more information 

MESSAGE: Blame Game

So I got a message from someone  about this and she had TONS of questions I think she was releasing somethings to me. I was going to ignore it (sorry) but funny how things work because this subject on what she was going through, applies to something that was brought to my attention this morning.

It amazes me how easy it is for people to not take responsibility for their screws up and how easy it is for them to be complacent in allowing and or blaming another person for their wrong doing. In a superficial world, it's so easy to get mixed up in many things. Many people I know aim to please others, do things or act a certain way, kiss ass, point fingers, just so they can sleep at night.

It's so easy to play the blame game. It's so easy to say Mary did this when in reality you did because you don't want to get caught up in the reality of your own struggles, wrongs, or mishaps. For those people who have to do this it's a shame. To run away from your issues and your faults, to go and hide like a coward instead of facing the reality is a shame.  Always point the blame, not taking it, denying it and so on only leads to a bad out look on you. Like the famous quote says "what's done in the dark, always comes to light"

I don't focus to much on these people, because they are sad human beings and they need help from a higher power.I know people like this and it's a shame I tend to stay clear from them. Ownership and keeping your word or even having a word is what's important. If people can't trust you, or count on you to do what you say then why are you surprised when people walk away from you?

For those who love to play the blame game and know how to play it well be careful; God doesn't like ugly, he is always watching. For those who are worried about people in their circle who do this, step away and do it fast, it's only a matter of time before they throw you under the bus.

2013 AMA Recap :)

So if you missed the AMA's last night, and only want to see the performances and see who won, well click below.

COMPLETE WINNER'S LIST:

Favorite Male Pop Rock Artist – Justin Timberlake

Favorite Female Artist, Soul/R&B - Rihanna

Favorite Album, Country - "Red," by Taylor Swift

Favorite Album, Rap/Hip-Hop - "The Heist," by Macklemore & Ryan Lewis

Favorite Artist, Alternative Rock - Imagine Dragons

Favorite Artist, Latin - Marc Anthony

Favorite Album, Pop or Rock - "Take Me Home," by One Direction

New Artist of the Year, presented by Kohl's - Ariana Grande

Favorite Male Artist, Soul/R&B - Justin Timberlake

Favorite Female Artist, Country - Taylor Swift

Single of the Year - "Cruise," by Florida Georgia Line, featuring Nelly

Favorite Album, Soul/R&B - "The 20/20 Experience," by Justin Timberlake

Favorite Artist, Electronic Dance Music (EDM) - Avicii

Favorite Artist, Adult Contemporary - Maroon 5

Favorite Artist, Contemporary Inspirational - Matthew West

Top Soundtrack - Pitch Perfect

Favorite Male Artist, Country - Luke Bryan

Favorite Band, Duo or Group, Pop or Rock - One Direction

Favorite Band, Duo or Group, Country - Lady Antebellum

Artist of the Year - Taylor Swift

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MESSAGE: Motivation

Who am I kidding? I love writing about celebrity gossip the latest trends and what people are talking about. BUT I also love feedback from my readers and specific questions they want answered. So like I mentioned in my last post, I will be responding via blog or vlog in between my celebrity gritty blogs.

So here is this blog, Motivation!

A majority of you ask me "what motivates me?" or "can you help me get motivated?" or "how do you have the energy?"

Motivation  for me comes from my late best friend who was taken away in 2002. Another is my nephew and he always tells me to believe in myself and expresses how much he loves me. My small inner circle that helps lift me every step of the way. My readers motivate me  because I write to please me and you  and it seems to be working :). Lastly, I also motivate myself because at 24 years old, I have accomplished many things and I'm still in the  process of getting my degree!!

How can I help you get motivated?
Well all I can say is do you.Meaning you are the ONLY one who will push you as hard as you can go. You are the ONLY one who has a true say so in what you do.IF you DON'T believe  in yourself or care enough about yourself than why expect me or someone else to?

Lastly, how do you find the energy?
Well I work full time (Mon-Fri 8-5 sometimes weekends) I go to college full time (maintaining a 3.84 GPA), I also am a novelist (published 1 and 3 in the works), and I create and keep up with this blog as well as another blog writing team (Lovett Publishing). I have many bosses who keep me busy and entertained. On top of that I manage to go to the gym almost everyday and get enough sleep (on some nights). So energy isn't the question it's more about motivation which is what this blog is about.

We all have different things that motivate us. Whether it be  your parents, children, peers, work or just the love of whatever craft you do. Either way, the honest truth is that you either have it or you don't. You can either be a doer and a go getter or just sit there and let  things pass you by, which one are you? Pick your motivation and do something great.


I challenge you to find  that motivation and use it to be the best you  that you can be