Yes, I Love How I Look Too.

It's so funny, a friend of mine shared this article from Buzzfeed where a woman who agreed with a compliment she received on Tinder and how it pissed the guy off. Why is that? Is it because you encountered a woman who, for once loves who she is, what she is and how she looks? Is it because that a woman who is self-aware is now deemed cocky instead of confident? Either way, it's annoying.

Ladies,

You should think and believe that you look good. You should love your skin, hair, nails, clothes, body and whatever else you wear on that beautiful canvas that God created. Most importantly you shouldn't be apologetic for it. Look, it's simple, if a guy is threatened by your confidence and self love they will lash out at you and come back with a diss to cover up that compliment. It's mainly because that man is scared of a woman who is secure. Which ultimately means that he himself is insecure and wants a doe eyed chick who is in the same boat.

Personally like many of you I've been treated badly because of my confidence. Also because I'm not easily smitten by a comment. This one guy told me that he didn't know how to handle someone who already knew her worth. What? He went on to explain that a majority of girls, when you compliment them they give you a backstory. I laughed because I know plenty of women like that. He then mocked a conversation:

man: you look great
woman: really? man I felt like shit today or ugh thanks I don't think so or stop lying

man to me: you look great today!
me: thanks!

He said my short curt response mixed with happiness and self-awareness of my self-love was refreshing. We went on to have a great date and later down the road we fitted best as friends and nothing romantic. However from time to time, he does hint at wanting to give it another shot, but meh I'm not feeling it.  Now back to the compliments!

I want every woman to learn how to receive a compliment with confidence. It starts by loving yourself and complimenting yourself daily AND believing it! Tell yourself you're gorgeous in the morning, that you look good and that you love those battle scars that we as women gain over the years. You are beautiful, you are loved and you are an amazing goddess! If you need some help, my girl Ashley Graham has a message for you:

<3 Ebony

Taking a Moment

Where have I been!?

That seems to be the hot topic of the emails and messages I received from my writing hiatus. So to answer your question, I've been taking a moment.

In a place where you're constantly overlooked, talked down on, disrespected and at times fearful for your life you have to take a moment. You have to take a moment to appreciate what's around you. You have to take a moment to remember why you do what you do. You have to take a moment to fall in love with it all over again as if it were your first true love.

For me, I had to take a moment and love myself again. From the people who make it a habit to constantly let me know that I'm nothing, I had to take a moment to rebuild myself. From a certain profession that's slowly sucking the life out of me because of misplaced promises, I had to take a moment to remember that I am worthy of those promises and they will happen one way or another. Also that this is just a stepping stone to my happiness. From the people who are flaky I had to take a moment to remove them from my life. For the God, my papa who keeps on blessing and forgiving me, I had to take a moment to reconnect with him.

I'm doing something that's long overdue, I'm focusing on me and what I want. I'm going after everything that is set before me and letting no one or thing get in the way of that. I have this fire that God placed back in my heart of our original plan. Which ultimately is his plan on my life. At times you have to take a moment to appreciate yourself so that no one else can tear what you built down.

I have something in the works. A plan that I'll be more then happy to share with you when the moment is right. I'm excited for this journey and to share it with you when the time presents itself. Just know that there's a major shift in the atmosphere.

I'll still be taking my moments, and I'm going to write every now and again. Soon my blog will be as popping as it once was. But for now, I need to disconnect so I can reconnect with what truly matters. The voices that need to be heard. The topics that needs to be discussed and what's in my heart. I'll be taking a moment for as long as it takes.

<3 Ebony

Ebony Williams Catches Up With Marlon Wayans! He Has Shows THIS WEEKEND!

Ebony Williams catches up with her friend Marlon Wayans! He has show this weekend : 

Comedy Works SOUTH 

Tonight April 21st & 22nd : 7:15pm & 9:45pm
Sunday April 23rd at 7:30pm 

We talk about family, dreams, his show and more!  Get your tickets HERE

I talk with Lil Duval. Raquel Lee and Faizon Love about Grow House Out on 4/20

Grow House is a new film by DJ Pooh, starring Deray Davis, Lil' Duval, Faizon Love and Snoop Dogg. In theaters April 20, 2017 is about two guys who start a risky new business to pay off a debt. Ebony Williams sits down with Raquel Lee, Lil Duval and Faizon to get the scoop on the movie!

 

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Midnight Rendezvous

In a world that's so busy, it's still very slow to me
A place that's so loud, but no one can hear me
Trapped in a place of isolation and manic depression
my brain is trapped in the depth of despair
mismatched with the screams of a child wanting to be cared for or maybe
it's the screams of wanting it all to end.
They sound similar in a way
The way of gasping for air and wanting help
The way of begging for someone anyone to stop and look
The way of a dying heart
who's talent is drifting away by the sea of tears that's cried every night...
But yet
The show must go on after all it is a business
A business of life and happiness or at least that's what we display on the Internet
But for me
Someone who struggles with a reality of never being loved in the way that's intended,
or experiencing true friendships
or knowing what it's like at a honest family life..it's hard
In a world where people listen to respond instead of listening to understand, 
it's easy to get lost and trapped in life's quick sand
It's slowly dragging me down
Pulling me in deeper as I try to fight these feelings
But it's winning,
the world is winning
and

I can no longer breathe.

Many of you claim to be there, an ode that's sung from the mountain tops,
but when your phone rings, when asked to hang
I'll tell you now it's to late to cry your tears when I'm gone.
Because the reality is, you were never there and you never planned on being there.
You've let  me slip when I was crying out and reaching for your generous hand
that you hold out to an extent only to retract it when it's needed.
But unfortunately I'm used to it.
This is symbolic in many ways
To be gone and end it all
Which truth am I speaking of?
Reality or the one in my mind?
In a world so loud
In a place so busy
It's easy for one to go unnoticed
Until the day comes when they're no longer here
Then all of a sudden
Everyone cares

<3 Ebony