Positive

We know to be nice to others or do unto others as you want done unto you. Being nice seems overrated seeing how most of the world is just a pit full of backstabbery (yes I made that word up). So you might be thinking what's the point on being nice when no one is nice to me? Or whats the point on being positive when I'm basically Murphy's Law in the flesh. Well my little grasshoppers, here's why I think being positive is one of the most important things to be in your life.

When you speak negativity, whether it be about others or yourself, that will actually come out as an action towards you. Being negative is like a second job. It's exhausting, takes a toll on your body and changes your heart.  When you're negative all things negative will come to you. I remember my pastor saying "when you speak bad, it processes through your brain, then through your mouth and finds a way to meditate to your heart." Letting negativity into your heart will cloud your mind on all the good that is supposed to come your way.

Another thing to think about is, how being negative can effect your personal life. No one wants a Debbie Downer in the circle. No woman or man wants someone who's negative and brings that mood around them. Real friends and ones who are prospering to do great things don't hang out with those who focus on what's going wrong.  We can get doubtful at times that's normal. Optimism has to be one of the newest things I've learned to accept and actually try out.

When things hit the fan for me, I couldn't see light at the end of the tunnel. All I could see was stuff not happening, getting shot down when I was trying to get out of my current situation. Everywhere I turned was a NO and every person I talked to stopped me dead in my tracks. It's easy to turn negative, to doubt yourself when nothing is going right and you can't see light.

I prayed one night, and I had everything lifted on my chest when I asked God "Why can't I get a yes?"  He responded "You have to see the good in the things I deny you. It's for a reason" I stopped questioning after that. I started to focus on my craft more, making my attitude positive and helping others. I became distracted with changing for the better because I wanted to. I became oblivious to the blessings I was receiving. I stopped doubting God, I stopped seeing things through my eyes and getting frustrated when I was shut down. I've slowly come to terms with understanding there is glory in the no's I received, that's because God has something even better for me.

So when you're negative, and you can't see a way out. When nothings going right and doors are shutting in your face. Just try to understand that there is a door that's already open, you have to keep trying until you find it. Being negative will only cloud that door form being seen. Negativity will bring you to a new path that might seem right but in reality it isn't.  So switch up that attitude and see where it lands you.

Grammys 2014

Last nights Grammys has to be one of the best ones I've seen Check out the performances below. If you want to see who won what click HERE 


Beyonce and Jay Z reminded us why they make the big bucks

Lorde is awesome because she reminds me of Wednesday from Adams Family except with an awesome singing voice

 Taylor Swift was pretty amazing actually 

 Pink reminded us why we need to stay in shape

Katy Perry and Juicy J were awesome loved the set 

Imagine Dragons and Kendrick Lamar stole the show

Hunter Hayes gave a great performance! Kids listen up!

Pharrell Williams ad Stevie Wonder was pure fun 

Carol King and Sara Bareilles gave me goosebumps

Metallica and Lang Lang made me smile!!

Keith Urban and Gary Clark calmed the mood <3

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Robin Thicke and Chicago... need I say more???

Macklemore and Ryan Lewis made us cry! 

Miranda Lambert and Joe Armstrong

 Kacy Musgraves made me laugh lol shes adorable too 

Country at it's best :)

Paul McCartney and Ringo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Black Grammys - Wale, J Cole, Meek Mill, Rockie Fresh

Check it out :)

Quiet Time

Loud thoughts, unstoppable doubt and confusion! Can someone hit a switch to turn off our brains sometimes! That precious moment of quietness can be wonders for us. That moment when nothing seems to be going right, or that day when everyone is testing you, even that time you look in the mirror and start picking at the things you want to change. Those moments are when we need to put ourselves in time out.

Quiet time!

This morning was GREAT and in a matter of well five minutes I was as irritated as ever. I'm glad now that when I get this way I know to pray immediately. This is something I've been working hard on because of my mild anger problem when people are stuck on stupid. I prayed and decided to make this morning a good day and ignore the ignorance.

Quiet time isn't just for kids it's for adults too. It allows us to gather those thoughts that seem jumbled when we're going 100mph. Take a min to breathe! If you feel like you're to busy to take a minute for yourself. take a bathroom break, go outside and get it together. Don't bug out to much to where you can't find time for YOU. You are the only one taking care of what you need to do. So when things are busy, when life is crazy, when people just piss you off just by opening their mouth, go sit somewhere and take a time out. No phone, computer, tablet NOTHING just take a minute or two to regroup. You'll feel a lot better. 

MESSAGE: Being Private in the Public

My dad took this photo of me when we had a mini photo shoot. I love it because it resembles so many things. The meaning behind this photo breaks me down to my bare essentials. During this shoot I was at my loneliest part in my life. Many people don't know this, but when I first got on Television I was a weather girl for FOX NEWS. I was 18 years old at the time and  I lost ALL of my friends. I was called a "ho" because apparently I slept with my female manager to get the position. I was cut off from my friends because I was progressing and they were pregnant. I was talked about from the ones closest to me and doubted by my own flesh in blood saying "I will never be something big, I'm just a pretty face." I got into countless physical fights with females because I was "doing the most". When out people would "accidentally" spill things on me and laugh it off. 

Surprised? 

So there I am, in this photo at 19 years old and broken because I was blessed with the chance to better my life and I decided to take that step. Being in the public it's hard to decipher what to keep private. In many ways a private life really doesn't exist because we have to have so many things on display. Pictures, videos, personality, nightlife etc. Everything is captured through a lens when you have a career that's in the public eye. 

Having feelings of out-lash and emotion can happen behind closed doors where it's recommended. But let those feelings come out in public and all of a sudden "you lost your mind".  When you sign up for a career in the public eye get ready for all the backlash, rumors, drama, false friends and loneliness all while you have to keep busy and a smile on your face.  It's a give an take when taking on a career that involves being public which is why they say it's not for everyone. It might look easy but it takes real strength to keep it going. It's something you can't hide from, but you have to know the difference in what should be public and what's private. 

That's why I love being an author. The ability I have to tell stories allows me to release things in a fictional way that's actually helping me in reality. I love this blog because it's a mix of all things I love. I get to post about music since being a radio personality that is important. I get to write about whatever is on my heart because I'm a woman and writing about emotions is soothing. I also get to write about subject matters people ask me questions about, which typically has "MESSAGE" before my blog title like today's posting. Being private in the public seems hard and for those who are new in it, it can break you down. All I have to say is if you don't have something to keep you grounded and at peace you will go crazy.

So for the one who wants to remain anonymous by sending me a message, don't stop what you're doing. Don't let those who curse your name have a hold in your life or a place in your heart. I prayed for all of them and asked God to forgive them while healing me. I look back and smile because those YEARS of pain caused me to publish two books with three ready to publish, be on television at 18 years old for 3 years then jump right into radio, becoming a model to where photogs from Alaska and the lower 48 want to work with me, being asked to emcee many events in town and get invites from out of state and a few other things I won't share just yet :-D. 

Everyone's journey is different, this obviously is mine SO FAR that I know many can relate too. I've learned that you have to find a balance and that outlet my friend Marlon taught me that. Believe in yourself and trust in God that it will happen and everything will be okay. 

<3- Ebony