And if you want to see video highlights well just click on the pic below :)
Thursday, January 9, 2014
Missed the People's Choice Awards?
If you're like me you missed the People's Choice Awards last night! But don't worry click the pic to see a full list of winners :)
Wednesday, January 8, 2014
Be Someones Blessing
When we think of blessings what comes to mind? Health? Fancy cars or houses? Money? etc. Most of us would think money because ultimately that's what we're after in this superficial world. We seek more green to satisfy our kids, friends, employees and our-self of course. So second question how can you be someones blessings? Third question what can you do or have you done to be someones blessing?
You don't have to hand out tons of money to be considered a blessing. Just by asking someone "hows your day?" or sending a text saying "I'm thinking about you" or "have a great day". Or even speaking with someone who looks like they aren't doing to well. Those little forms of communication can bless those in the deepest ways more than money ever could. How? well just the thought of having someone care about how we are, satisfies us in ways we don't think about. Have you had a day that was total pandemonium? Nothing was going right and people were working your last nerve? Now imagine someone sending you a text saying "thinking about you" or "how are you?" or sending you a scripture randomly like my friend Ariana does to me. Those types of things open us up and lightens our hearts a little because we're reminded that no matter the stresses someone cares about us.
I was at Chevron yesterday when I heard a homeless man ask for something simple, a cup of coffee or a dollar. He asked about four people who ignored him, looked at their phones as if they didn't hear this request or were just flat out rude to the man. He looked down and you can tell he's been through a lot. He came over to me and smiled, he said "Excuse me Ms? May I have a dollar so I can get some coffee?" I looked at him and smiled, noticed that everyone who turned him down was watching in disgust. I said "I'm sorry I don't have a dollar" he looked sad and smiled and was going to walk away "but I do have ten dollars" he looked at me and smile and said "May God Bless you!" He went inside past all those people, and actually bought water, coffee and a sandwich and some other needs with the ten dollars I provided.
I don't have money to give away and I actually needed that ten bucks, but I could tell he needed it more. So I prayed on the ten bucks and God told me to "Bless him" so I did. For the first time in giving, I felt great about it, a spirit was in me that lifted all this physical pain I'd been carrying for a couple months now. God will speak to you in real situations and you will know when to say "hi" or just strike a conversation with a stranger who looks lonely, or to help someone in need. With people now a days that like to trick you and use money for bad things it's hard to want to give so you have to be cautious and smart. Pray on it and God will let you know.
So send that random text if a thought of someone crosses your mind. Smile at someone who looks upset or sad. If you can help someone who is in need, don't contemplate on whether or not to do it, just do it. Be someones blessing you have no idea what your random act of happiness can or will do for someone.
You don't have to hand out tons of money to be considered a blessing. Just by asking someone "hows your day?" or sending a text saying "I'm thinking about you" or "have a great day". Or even speaking with someone who looks like they aren't doing to well. Those little forms of communication can bless those in the deepest ways more than money ever could. How? well just the thought of having someone care about how we are, satisfies us in ways we don't think about. Have you had a day that was total pandemonium? Nothing was going right and people were working your last nerve? Now imagine someone sending you a text saying "thinking about you" or "how are you?" or sending you a scripture randomly like my friend Ariana does to me. Those types of things open us up and lightens our hearts a little because we're reminded that no matter the stresses someone cares about us.
I was at Chevron yesterday when I heard a homeless man ask for something simple, a cup of coffee or a dollar. He asked about four people who ignored him, looked at their phones as if they didn't hear this request or were just flat out rude to the man. He looked down and you can tell he's been through a lot. He came over to me and smiled, he said "Excuse me Ms? May I have a dollar so I can get some coffee?" I looked at him and smiled, noticed that everyone who turned him down was watching in disgust. I said "I'm sorry I don't have a dollar" he looked sad and smiled and was going to walk away "but I do have ten dollars" he looked at me and smile and said "May God Bless you!" He went inside past all those people, and actually bought water, coffee and a sandwich and some other needs with the ten dollars I provided.
I don't have money to give away and I actually needed that ten bucks, but I could tell he needed it more. So I prayed on the ten bucks and God told me to "Bless him" so I did. For the first time in giving, I felt great about it, a spirit was in me that lifted all this physical pain I'd been carrying for a couple months now. God will speak to you in real situations and you will know when to say "hi" or just strike a conversation with a stranger who looks lonely, or to help someone in need. With people now a days that like to trick you and use money for bad things it's hard to want to give so you have to be cautious and smart. Pray on it and God will let you know.
So send that random text if a thought of someone crosses your mind. Smile at someone who looks upset or sad. If you can help someone who is in need, don't contemplate on whether or not to do it, just do it. Be someones blessing you have no idea what your random act of happiness can or will do for someone.
Tuesday, January 7, 2014
Lady Reality Check
I'm an unintentional air hustler aka I listen to peoples conversation unintentionally. When I'm in the waiting room and there is no sound on the television, or in the nail salon solo trying to relax and there's two females next to me loud as can be, or when I'm shopping and hear someone complain about how "fat" they are I will most likely hear it and be paying attention.
I was sitting getting a pedicure and this one lady said "Maybe I need to change things, I feel as if I'm not worthy of him " Now ladies this sparks my posting for today. I used to feel that way, like I'm "not good enough" or "not worthy" of a certain man because he wasn't biting the hook I threw out. She then went on to say that she texts or calls and at times he responds and at other times he doesn't. Going into detail with her friend she said " What can I do to make him want me?" Ahhhhhh I hear that a lot especially form MY friends!
Here's one thing I know for sure, you can't make a man WANT you. A man either does or doesn't it's so simple ladies and it's not rocket science. You can't trick a man into loving you, bombard him into wanting you and so on. If he is interested trust me you will know. If you have to ask yourself questions like "am I good enough?" or contemplating on what to change then the answers are NO and STOP IT! Now hear me out on why. You're doubting yourself, you have already put yourself down and at a level that no one wants. You have defeated yourself and are trying to change YOU to try and complete someone else. No real man wants a push over a woman who isn't about a damn thing and most importantly someone who is weak and interchangeable.
If that man you look at doesn't want you or give back stop looking at yourself in the mirror and blaming what you see. Instead realize it's just because you aren't the type or one for him. Now I know most of you think you are the type for everyone and sorry to pop that bubble but you're not. So if he doesn't text back, or call, want to hang or anything else on a romantic level that's fine. Keep working on you until God gives you that guy who wants to do all those things. When you stop looking, chasing or pushing however you want to call it GOOD men will pop up! Trust me I'm there now ;).
If you come across those guys who just want to have sex while you're in the mist of finding that "love" stop being upset about it! You're sexy and have a VAGINA! Men are going to want to have sex with you! Take that compliment add some more swag to those hips and keep it moving. I have to admit this was my problem I hated being looked at and knowing that guys want to have sex and not a real relationship. Until I realized that being desired shouldn't be upsetting or frowned upon, I look good, I'm smart, I'm motivated and have this desire to do nothing but great and I will allowing nothing or no one to stand in my way. I am strong and I am proud. So ladies if that guy just wants to hit it, know you're one bad motha fuck* and stay happy.
Lastly think about this ladies, are you ready for that good man to come into your life? Can you say you want what he has to offer and what he's willing to do for you? Most importantly are YOU willing to give up the single life? I have a friend who called a good man "gay" for being caring and wanting to know how she is, she mocks him for being what a man is supposed to be he opens doors, pulls chairs and pays for things etc. She pushed him away and now says "no one wants me" and I look at her like she's crazy and walk away. Will you let a man take care of you? Pay for you? Open those doors and pull out those chairs? Text you and seeing how you are today? Let him be emotional and tell you how he feels for you? It's easy to say YES but MOST of you laugh at that and call them "thirsty" or "lame" or like my girl says "gay". Think about it.
To keep it short, are you good enough? YES ALWAYS for that one who is WORTHY of YOU (same goes for men). Should you change for that other person? ONLY if that change will benefit you and not just them example: bad anger work on it for YOU and him etc don't change tastes in music or hobbies because that other person hates them that's apart of what makes you, YOU. He just wants to have sex he's a dog! NOT in all cases, he's a man and you have a magical box of awesomeness in between those legs. And lastly a man will go for what he wants and will blatantly showcase what he doesn't want.
I was sitting getting a pedicure and this one lady said "Maybe I need to change things, I feel as if I'm not worthy of him " Now ladies this sparks my posting for today. I used to feel that way, like I'm "not good enough" or "not worthy" of a certain man because he wasn't biting the hook I threw out. She then went on to say that she texts or calls and at times he responds and at other times he doesn't. Going into detail with her friend she said " What can I do to make him want me?" Ahhhhhh I hear that a lot especially form MY friends!
Here's one thing I know for sure, you can't make a man WANT you. A man either does or doesn't it's so simple ladies and it's not rocket science. You can't trick a man into loving you, bombard him into wanting you and so on. If he is interested trust me you will know. If you have to ask yourself questions like "am I good enough?" or contemplating on what to change then the answers are NO and STOP IT! Now hear me out on why. You're doubting yourself, you have already put yourself down and at a level that no one wants. You have defeated yourself and are trying to change YOU to try and complete someone else. No real man wants a push over a woman who isn't about a damn thing and most importantly someone who is weak and interchangeable.
If that man you look at doesn't want you or give back stop looking at yourself in the mirror and blaming what you see. Instead realize it's just because you aren't the type or one for him. Now I know most of you think you are the type for everyone and sorry to pop that bubble but you're not. So if he doesn't text back, or call, want to hang or anything else on a romantic level that's fine. Keep working on you until God gives you that guy who wants to do all those things. When you stop looking, chasing or pushing however you want to call it GOOD men will pop up! Trust me I'm there now ;).
If you come across those guys who just want to have sex while you're in the mist of finding that "love" stop being upset about it! You're sexy and have a VAGINA! Men are going to want to have sex with you! Take that compliment add some more swag to those hips and keep it moving. I have to admit this was my problem I hated being looked at and knowing that guys want to have sex and not a real relationship. Until I realized that being desired shouldn't be upsetting or frowned upon, I look good, I'm smart, I'm motivated and have this desire to do nothing but great and I will allowing nothing or no one to stand in my way. I am strong and I am proud. So ladies if that guy just wants to hit it, know you're one bad motha fuck* and stay happy.
Lastly think about this ladies, are you ready for that good man to come into your life? Can you say you want what he has to offer and what he's willing to do for you? Most importantly are YOU willing to give up the single life? I have a friend who called a good man "gay" for being caring and wanting to know how she is, she mocks him for being what a man is supposed to be he opens doors, pulls chairs and pays for things etc. She pushed him away and now says "no one wants me" and I look at her like she's crazy and walk away. Will you let a man take care of you? Pay for you? Open those doors and pull out those chairs? Text you and seeing how you are today? Let him be emotional and tell you how he feels for you? It's easy to say YES but MOST of you laugh at that and call them "thirsty" or "lame" or like my girl says "gay". Think about it.
To keep it short, are you good enough? YES ALWAYS for that one who is WORTHY of YOU (same goes for men). Should you change for that other person? ONLY if that change will benefit you and not just them example: bad anger work on it for YOU and him etc don't change tastes in music or hobbies because that other person hates them that's apart of what makes you, YOU. He just wants to have sex he's a dog! NOT in all cases, he's a man and you have a magical box of awesomeness in between those legs. And lastly a man will go for what he wants and will blatantly showcase what he doesn't want.
Monday, January 6, 2014
Substance
As I had a conversation with a few people over the weekend we talked about how some people don't excel in their craft. We see many people who claim to be an artist but don't know how to work a studio let alone spit a rhyme. We talked about some people claiming to be an author but have never written anything with substance or meaning with intent to reach people. We vented a little on how television showcases broken families and how women fight over baby daddies instead of uplifting each other or making us laugh. The glorification of teen shows now are reality with teen pregnancy and drug use.
We watch things and read things that are designed to change our mindset and get us hooked and talking the next day. Where is the substance? Where are the women empowerment shows that doesn't involve a smart woman sleeping with a married man? Where are the shows with strong teenage leads that doesn't allow that teenager to have a drug issue or sex issue? Why now do shows have to have these problems for teens to watch? The shows I watched growing up didn't have those issues and yet we were tuned in every week to catch the latest episode. We wanted a relationship like Cory and Topanga finding a boy in high school who loved you and still knew how to be a friend instead of that bad boy who couldn't spell or define what a verb is. I guess that's because we live in a day now where sex is at it's highest and it's true sex sales. Sad part is, it doesn't matter if that sex that's selling is of a teenager or adult.
I heard this young Caucasian girl tell her mom she wants to be like Kat Stacks when I was in the store the other day. The mom had NO IDEA who Kat Stacks was so all she said was "that's nice honey" and pushed the cart to the next isle. As I went to check out I saw a little girl skimming through the pages of Cosmo because Khloe Kardashian was on the cover. I stopped and looked around observing people and their kids and actually seeing how out of tuned these parents were with these little kids threw me off. Where's the teaching? Where's the caring about who the hell Kat Stacks is or why a ten year old is reading freaking Cosmo?
I know I'm not the only one who has vented like this or will. I know that there are many petitions to get certain things off air and the content changed in certain television shows. Truth is we can complain all we want but it wont change! Want to know why? It's because OUR reality is what we watch on television. In real life people fight over baby daddies, teens get pregnant, people have drug issues, families are broken, the smart women does in fact at times sleep with men they shouldn't even if they are married and I know a few women who have or are doing this! Reality television is trash yes, but it's called reality for a reason even if it is scripted because it's either touching on something I've been through, you've been through or that we are going through. So cringe at the thought of another love show with that crazy ass female looking a mess, stop holding your breath for teen pregnancy shows to go off air because it won't, don't get mad when the slut gets the good guy and screws him over, and accept the fact that Love and Hip Hop probably won't stop until it's reached every hit city in the US.
It's called reality television and it doesn't need substance because in reality a majority of people don't have substance or even know what it is.
We watch things and read things that are designed to change our mindset and get us hooked and talking the next day. Where is the substance? Where are the women empowerment shows that doesn't involve a smart woman sleeping with a married man? Where are the shows with strong teenage leads that doesn't allow that teenager to have a drug issue or sex issue? Why now do shows have to have these problems for teens to watch? The shows I watched growing up didn't have those issues and yet we were tuned in every week to catch the latest episode. We wanted a relationship like Cory and Topanga finding a boy in high school who loved you and still knew how to be a friend instead of that bad boy who couldn't spell or define what a verb is. I guess that's because we live in a day now where sex is at it's highest and it's true sex sales. Sad part is, it doesn't matter if that sex that's selling is of a teenager or adult.
I heard this young Caucasian girl tell her mom she wants to be like Kat Stacks when I was in the store the other day. The mom had NO IDEA who Kat Stacks was so all she said was "that's nice honey" and pushed the cart to the next isle. As I went to check out I saw a little girl skimming through the pages of Cosmo because Khloe Kardashian was on the cover. I stopped and looked around observing people and their kids and actually seeing how out of tuned these parents were with these little kids threw me off. Where's the teaching? Where's the caring about who the hell Kat Stacks is or why a ten year old is reading freaking Cosmo?
I know I'm not the only one who has vented like this or will. I know that there are many petitions to get certain things off air and the content changed in certain television shows. Truth is we can complain all we want but it wont change! Want to know why? It's because OUR reality is what we watch on television. In real life people fight over baby daddies, teens get pregnant, people have drug issues, families are broken, the smart women does in fact at times sleep with men they shouldn't even if they are married and I know a few women who have or are doing this! Reality television is trash yes, but it's called reality for a reason even if it is scripted because it's either touching on something I've been through, you've been through or that we are going through. So cringe at the thought of another love show with that crazy ass female looking a mess, stop holding your breath for teen pregnancy shows to go off air because it won't, don't get mad when the slut gets the good guy and screws him over, and accept the fact that Love and Hip Hop probably won't stop until it's reached every hit city in the US.
It's called reality television and it doesn't need substance because in reality a majority of people don't have substance or even know what it is.
Thursday, January 2, 2014
Dirty Love
Sooo..... Ke$ha released her new music video, one that she directed herself..... It's called Dirty Love check it out:
WARNING! LOTS OF KE$HA BUTT IS SHOWN ...
I just wish she would do some squats...
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