Ebony Williams

Monday, June 16, 2014

MESSAGE: Have You Ever?

As I sat last night I found myself listening to some great music. Slow jams form the 80s and early 90s. Every song was hittin; I was moving side to side, singing along in a great mood reminiscing on what that song meant to me at the time it came out. What was I going through, who I was kickin it with at the time; and what friends brought up certain memories. Those times were great!

Then I got a text message from a girlfriend releasing her frustrations about her mister. After calling my girl up and hearing her speak, letting her release those emotions I got a message from a random lady on Facebook. At first I didn't understand why she released to someone she didn't really know. According to this lady she says she feels something from my writings. Specifically what I write for another blog company.

Have you ever loved somebody so much it made you cry? Have you ever needed something so bad you can't sleep at night?- Brandy

How ironic, when I'm listening to my girl and reading this Facebook message, this song played four times with one song separating each time it played-did I mention I was listening to Itunes radio? So what do I do? Write of course :)

In the message I received, this woman was feeling some pain. Finding out that the one she cares for doesn't really feel the same way back. We've all been there. She said she's tired of feeling like she cares more with every relationship and then here came the kicker. At the end of this lengthy message she says "All guys are the same, want one thing and could careless about how I feel! How can they be so selfish?"

Ladies, sound familiar? How many of us have used that? Or battled with the possibilities that "we" are the issue?

I smile when people say "all guys" or "all girls are the same". The truth is no one is the same. People are all different and have different agendas. Yeah you might meet a nice cool ass person, but if they don't want to RUSH and settle into something, that does't make them a bad person. Just because a guy or girl might want to talk to other people and hang out with others doesn't make them a bad person. You're single until there's a mutual agreement! A MUTUAL AGREEMENT TO CHANGE THAT STATUS! I know many people who put themselves on hold because they come into deep like with someone. They tend to shut out others and other possibilities because this person is so fine and consumed their mind. BUT they forget they aren't actually exclusive with them. That's when people get hurt, frustrated and lose faith in love and others.

THAT'S THE KEY that most people forget. Talking to some, hanging out with them and hell even having sex with them doesn't mean you two are exclusive. That's the difference of the minds between us two sexes. I was watching Girl Code and they were talking about D.T.R aka Define The Relationship! It's never to early to ask "what are we?" it's simple and will cut out all that hurt and emotional crap you might get into later on. In all honesty when you ask this question, it can save you a lot of heartache and drama.People would rather go one for months off an assumption that they are taken instead of having a real conversation to define it. Some don't want to hear the truth so they avoid the D.T.R. talk. Comes to the old saying "you can't handle the truth".

How can they be so selfish?- I stared at that line for about five minutes. That's unfair to say about other people. I was in a situation where someone called me selfish because I didn't like him, want to be with him, and I gave no clues to wanting to make that happen.You can't MAKE someone love you or feel some type of way about you. Just because someone doesn't live up to your expectations, doesn't make THEM selfish, it makes you selfish. You can't force someone to be what you want. If they don't have it, why lash out on them? Why hold them to a standard they cannot meet? or probably don't want to meet? Why fight when YOU know they don't have what it takes to be with you? Now you're trying to change someone to fit you when God is obviously telling you they aren't the one. Not listening to what God is saying is always classified as being selfish, putting your needs in front of his.

In the end not everyone is the same, if you are attracting that type of person just look in the mirror and figure out what it is about YOU that is attracting that. Let's be real we all have a type. We might not notice that we subconsciously go after that type of individual. When we finally realize what we did aka when the relationship is over we then say "every girl/guy is the same". I looked at my own reflection and once I figured it out, I switched somethings up. Now a new class of MEN came my way. I'm talking, opening doors, texting just to say hi, calling to check up on me, random flowers and REAL conversation oh yeah and no pressure or expectation to have sex! This new class that I now attract make time for me without excuses.

Yes I'm single and for me this is the best possible time. I'm moving on, I'm finding myself out and getting a new respect for me and those around me. YES I've loved someone so hard it made me cry. YES I've taken care of that man who wasn't shit. YES I've been in a relationship longer than need be because I didn't want to be alone. YES I too thought a man was selfish because he didn't want me and YES I once thought every guy was the same.

All I can say is pray, keep growing, relax, don't rush, allow yourself to heal, and DTR.

Monday, May 19, 2014

2014 Billboard Awards Recap

In a nutshell here's what happened:

J.Lo, Pitbull and Claudia Leitte opened the show and took us on an international joy ride

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Carrie Underwood and Miranda Lambert made us realize leg day is very important

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Ricky Martin shook his bon bon with his dancers and I must say he looks pretty damn good

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Lorde is the definition of literally "feeling the music" singing while her body convulses to each little beat

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Iggy and Ariana Grande where too cute:

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and so were Iggy and Charlie XCX

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Shakira is ridiculously sexy despite her random voice pitch and sound changes

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Imgaine Dragons makes us want to own some drums and bang on them at random times during the day.. oh and the cleaning crew must have been pissed.. that was a lot of confetti

J.LO was the FIRST FEMALE to win the Billboard Icon award

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Kendal Jenner had ONE job, which was to introduce 5 Seconds of Summer and she almost called them One Direction ..then she admitted to not being a good reader.....

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Nonetheless 5 Seconds of Summer still did great, reminded me of how boy bands should sound

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Luke Bryant made me do a double take because he's quite attractive

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Katy Perry gave us a birthday dream while on tour

Jason Derulo brought his A game and danced his little butt all around the stage

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Miley Cyrus and Flaming lips did a tribute to The Beattles

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John Legend sang sweet melodies to his wifey making all the other women jelly

Robin Thicke thanked his "wife" (Who was a no show) and sang" Get Her Back" which happens to be his new single.... awkward

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Lastly the Michael Jackson performance was awesome and a little creepy, but nonetheless it made plenty of people cry

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If you want to see all the performances, check out perezhilton.com and the winner list is below :)

Top Artist
Justin Timberlake

Friday, May 16, 2014

Michael Jackson & Justin Timberlake OFFICIAL VIDEO

Friday, May 2, 2014

Girl Meets World Trailer

Wednesday, April 30, 2014

Clippers and Our Reality

We read the stories, see the memes created and that are floating all over our social networking sites. We take light to Donald Sterling and his situation because the new NBA commissioner made a decision that ultimately made one of the biggest statements of 2014. BANNED for LIFE! Those words, in bold big ink, will make anyone cringe a little bit.

Let's take a look further into this situation. Here is why Sterling and the Clippers is a reality and no big deal to most people today. You have your young beautiful woman or the "side piece" to a rich wealthy older Caucasian man. He just so happens to be rich and the supposed "sugar daddy" to his "assistant". Not only do we have them sleeping together, she's scorned because they "broke up" and she claimed to "get him back".

Now we hear that she spliced these private discussions together to get others to see him in this light. My question is, how many times has she heard him speak this way? How many times was she recording him while she was straddling him? Why now? Reports of Donald Sterling first came about YEARS ago with his views on the African American community. He owns housing units that make it impossible for minorities to rent. In 2003 Sterling had to pay off over $3 million to his tenants in the LA area for his racially biased abusive behavior claiming he wouldn't rent to Mexicans because of how they "smelled". Where was this story before now?

He cheats on his wife, talks bad about others who look different than him, and he sees his organization as a bunch of animals who do nothing but put money in his pocket. These words I'm sure he's said countless times before. Now we have the pretty ex girlfriend who spilled the beans because her ties to Sterling were cut short. Classic case of a woman scorned.

It's 2014, not like we've been oblivious to the fact that old racist people still exist. Or to the idea that not everyone likes those they work with or work for. I'm sure we've all had co workers or bosses to whom we've said negative things about. In no means am I defending Sterling, his words or actions. In no means am I feeling sorry for the side piece or Sterling for being BANNED. What I do feel sorry for is for the people who think of this as "brand new" and are surprised.

That just shows that there's still a little bit of obliviousness when it comes to people. It shows that people aren't really aware of the things that are STILL going race wise. It shows me that some people honestly think we are equal and not still divided. The new commissioner had a tough decision to make, talk about being welcomed into your new position right?

I agree with the commentators when they said the new commissioner made history. This stands as a front and shows that we have to come together, be better and educated when it comes to the world around us. This woke up the America that might have been asleep and ignorant to the years of history they tried to wash away. Sterling is classic high school history text book material. Yes folks, this type of thinking still exists. It's unfortunate that we had to have this happen for people to be applaud.

Clippers is our reality, because it's just that reality. Only difference is that it's high profiled compared to what goes on in the tri-city areas. There are worse and will continue to be worse until someone reaches those areas that are in need and help them. Why can't we help those cities and come together like we did for the Clippers? One day at a time I guess, question is, when will that time come?